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What the heck are reverse pegging and fauxing?

We all know that pegging is when a woman penetrates her (typically) male partner with a strap-on. Reverse is the opposite of that with the man wearing the strap-on harness and penetrating the female. Both of these allow the female to experience the pleasure of sexual penetration while the male does not. Both of these may or may not involve the usage of a chastity cage. The two are very similar, let’s go into the differences.

Reverse Pegging

A man who is wearing a chastity cage can typically wear a strap-on harness without the cage getting in the way too much. While he is wearing the harness, he has sexual intercourse with a lovely lady. For the female, this allows sexual intercourse from a penis that stays fully erect and can potentially be larger than her partner typically is.

Fauxing or Fauxking

Fauxing is the act of using a penis sleeve to cover the penis while having penetrative sex. This is very similar to reverse pegging although it typically utilizes a penis sleeve to minimize sensation for the male partner. The word faux means “not real or genuine; artificial” and fauxing applies to the penis being artificial and the sensations for the male being not real. Alternatively a hollow strap-on can be used which combines both pegging and the sleeve into one.

Teasing

Both fauxing and reverse pegging are quite similar and words that I found on subreddits, forums and other places on the internet while struggling to find words for these acts. These words define a type of teasing in which a female can tease the male as part of a female led relationship. Teasing is a wonderful way for a locked male to go deeper into subspace. With either of these, he will visually see his “penis” sliding into her but he won’t feel the accompanied warmth and wetness. If caged he may even feel the uncomfortable tightness as his erection fills the cage. While this isn’t typically painful it can be uncomfortable.

Beginner Cuckolding

Using either of these methods is a great way for a male to enjoy watching his partner enjoy sex in a way that isn’t directly tied to his sexual pleasure. A cuckold scenario or a MFM threesome is a fantasy that many couples have but including a third is inherently dangerous for a relationship or marriage. The frustration of cuckolding can be channeled into arousal and redirected into compersion for the partner. In the same direction, this can be a wonderfully great way for a couple to connect on a very emotional level.

Variety and newness is a thing that I enjoy a great deal. The same sex, night after night will be monotonous and repetitive for almost every couple. Mixing things up, feeling different sensations and hitting different spots is a wonderful way to grow closer to each other and explore sexual pleasure together.

Guilt & Humiliation

In the past I’ve felt a level of guilt while experiencing sexual pleasure while excluding Kev. These are great ways to expose yourself to scenarios where only one partner is permitted physical sexual pleasure. Remember that he will be experiencing a great deal of emotional sexual pleasure and this is a great building block to foundationally shift his sexual outlook. Traditionally men enjoy sex in the most physical of senses. Shifting him to an emotional enjoyment of sex will allow both of you to have a much more fulfilling sexual relationship.

He may feel a level of humiliation while watching her receive pleasure from something larger than he is. Humiliation is a challenging and multi faceted emotion. Depending on your relationship and feelings about humiliation you can watch his reaction and choose to make verbal comments about how much larger/harder the faux device is. Alternatively you can just enjoy it for what it is. This is my preference since it doesn’t equate his worth to his sexual performance and physical characteristics. If you choose to go down the road of humiliation or sph fetish, you can say things about finally feeling satisfied. You can compare to ex-lovers that he may be aware of. You can even allude to the fact that this is your preferred way of having sex.


What does it all mean?

Is your penis on the smaller size? Do you have less sexual stamina than you wish you had? Erection problems? Do you want to try some positions that don’t quite work with the combination of anatomies that you were blessed with? There are tons of reasons why a woman may want to feel a different member inside of her. My personal opinion is that guys who are able to focus on the sexual pleasure of their partner rather than focusing on their own sexual pleasure or ego are truly more evolved. Men who are more evolved and more aware of the feelings of their partner are less selfish and better at deep emotional connections. A deeper emotional connection is a better thing for every relationship. Wouldn’t you agree?

As women we shouldn’t have to worship his penis like some wonderful sexual magic wand. Guys with average penises and average sexual performance can be extremely above average when it comes to partners. Our society tells us that we should be getting everything from our partner and sometimes we make compromises because we feel that our partners should be our everything. Consider for a moment that we both may need to use some tools to reach peak physical pleasure. Does that make him less-than? Absolutely not. Does his penis define who he is? Absolutely not! If your penis defines who you are, you truly are no more evolved than the dildo that I’ve got sitting on my nightstand.


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Phenious

This sounds like something (both items) that we might want to try.

Anyone have any advice, or more importantly product experience for me?

This sounds really cool.

Brian

Get a bunch.

They come in all sorts of shapes, textures, and sizes, both inside and out when it comes to sheaths.

There are some you guys will like and some you wont so having options is a good strat to have the best experience out of the gate.

Another reason for having a few is verity and mood. Amazing how many different dicks she might like if she has the option 🙂

J.S.

As Emma mentions this is a great way to work in some SPH if you or your partner are interested in it.
Things like:
“If you were this big I’d let you do this to me”
“It feels so nice to actually be full”
“It’s so much better with one this size”

On the fantasy side my wife is not into being penetrated anally at all. I love the idea of being locked in chastity while using a strapon to have anal sex with her and that being the only way she ever receives anal sex from me.

subhubphx

Excellent commentary Emma. I loved this part:

My personal opinion is that guys who are able to focus on the sexual pleasure of their partner rather than focusing on their own sexual pleasure or ego are truly more evolved. Men who are more evolved and more aware of the feelings of their partner are less selfish and better at deep emotional connections. A deeper emotional connection is a better thing for every relationship. Wouldn’t you agree?”

Of course I agree and in addition to agreeing, it brings great satisfaction to Ms. K. and myself because this very thing was the basis for us deciding to embark on WLM journey nearly 10 years ago.

Tom Allen

The term “fauxing” or “foxing” originated as a substitute for the term “reverse pegging” This discussion came up a couple of years ago when some members of various chastity oriented forums and Twitter wanted a word just for themselves.

https://mrsedgesays.wordpress.com/2020/07/09/fauxing/

We wanted a term that would not sound ridiculous or out of place for vanilla women (who are often a bit put off by chastity devices). Since “pegging” denotes anal sex, “reverse pegging” comes a little too close to anal sex flipped around, which is not the concept any of us want; one that just describes the man having PIV sex but using a dildo seemed deserving of it’s own term.

Note that this is not only a chastity related act; there are men with ED and other medical issues for whom this is a common way of approaching intimacy with their partners.

There are a few other terms floating around, and “fauxing” seems to have morphed into “foxing” (phonetically similar). It does not specifically apply to using a penis sleeve or extension – in fact, that was not even part of the original discussions back in 2018/2019, although does that act need a term of its own?

Thumper has a blog post or two about how foxing is cuckolding’s next door neighbor.

Finally, some of your readers may be aware that since Mrs Edge has opted for my permanent chastity, this is the only way which we make love. There’s no humiliation involved with this, it’s simply a “replacement” for my original equipment. In fact, we’ve stopped using the term foxing ourselves, since she now considers the Vixskin we use to be “me”.

subhubphx

Loved every bit of that. Thank you.

Kenna29

The penis sleeve improved our sex life ten fold. My husband is a quick cummer and he uses the sleeve until I am satisfied. After I am satisfied then we remove the sleeve until he finishes. This is the greatest invention and it guarantees an orgasm for me. I can’t remember the last time we had sex with the sleeve! We both love it.

drew

Snap

lbp6855

A wonderful article that helps teach men to be a better support role partner in a FLR.

LocknKey

Now I am curious what dildo is sitting on her nightstand.

drew

Excellent article. I haven’t been on the site for a while but thoroughly enjoyed reading this, we have had a hollow dildo for a while and after my heart attack and various medications found it a godsend.

mstara

We’ve been using a strap on for him for years. For us it was a way of overcoming his ED issues, sometimes with and sometimes without chastity. As our use of a cage increased in duration, then so did the instances of him wearing the strap on whilst locked.
Now it is our default way of having sex, but we never knew it had a specific name.
We have both found a great deal of satisfaction with this approach. I love the fact that we still experience the intimacy, he still caresses me during sex and we still kiss etc. I also get the benefit of a penis that isn’t going to go soft on me either when I try to insert it or a little while into the act.
He genuinely is relieved that he is able to please me and thus in turn please himself. It has done his self esteem issues a world of good knowing that he can still satisfy his ‘woman’ even if it is with an artificial cock. It’s still him doing it and it’s still him that does all the other things that go alongside the actual act.