The Evolution of Evolving Your Man: A Journey of Sexual Exploration and Growth

Hey there, lovely readers! Emma here, and I’m beyond excited to take you on a little journey behind the scenes of how this blog, Evolving Your Man, came to be and how it’s blossomed into what it is today. So buckle up, because we’re diving deep into the evolution of our sexual exploration and how it’s been a wild, thrilling ride for my husband Kev and I.

Why I Started the Blog

Let’s rewind to a few years ago. Kev and I were in a steady, loving relationship, but like most couples, we were always looking for ways to spice things up and understand each others needs better. We started talking about what we liked, what we wanted to try, and most importantly, how we could make our relationship even stronger. After plenty of wine-fueled conversations (as the best ones often are), we stumbled upon the world of male chastity.

That was a turning point for us. I realized just how much I loved the dynamic of being in control, and Kev discovered how much it turned him on to be denied. From there, we started to explore more – slowly at first – but male chastity became a major part of our intimacy. The idea of control, teasing, and edging just hit all the right spots, so much so that it felt natural to start writing about it. That’s when I thought, “Why not share our journey?” There weren’t a lot of open, friendly, and flirty spaces online where couples could talk about these things without shame or judgment. So, I started this little humble blog on WordPress.

Back then, it was just a small outlet where I could write about what we were learning and discovering together. I never imagined it would grow into the website you’re reading today!

Yoga Girl was a huge inspiration for me back in the early days of Evolving Your Man. Her now-defunct blog, FLR101 that I’ve partially archived, really opened my eyes to the dynamics of female-led relationships (FLR). While her approach was a bit more forceful and strict than what Kev and I were ready for, her candidness about power exchange in relationships was eye-opening. She wasn’t afraid to push boundaries and challenge traditional gender roles, and that boldness was something I admired. She and her blog are mostly gone now, but it planted a seed that helped me explore my own path in female-led dynamics, and I’ll always be grateful for that spark of inspiration.

From Chastity to Pegging (and Everything in Between)

So, male chastity was our first big step into what I like to call “relationship evolution” and it reinforced the female led relationship that felt so natural in our relationship. But we didn’t stop at male chastity. After all, once you get a taste of power, why not take it to the next level, right? 😈

That’s where pegging came in. Now, for those of you who aren’t familiar, pegging is when the woman takes control in very literal way, using a strap-on to penetrate her partner. And let me tell you, pegging and chastity go hand in hand like wine and cheese. For us, pegging was a huge leap forward in terms of intimacy and trust. Kev loved how it reinforced the power dynamic we were already playing with, and I absolutely adored the feeling of taking control in such a profound way. Plus, it was hot – like, really hot.

As we continued to explore pegging, we found that it opened up new layers of our relationship. We talked more, shared our fantasies more openly, and experimented with all kinds of fun scenarios. It wasn’t just about the physical act; it was about growing as a couple, learning what made each other tick, and finding new ways to connect on a deeper level.

Pegging was a game-changer for Kev and me in so many ways. For Kev, it wasn’t just about the physical sensation – though let’s be honest, that was definitely a part of it for both of us! It was about letting go and fully surrendering to the dynamic we had built. Pegging allowed him to feel delicate submissive emotions on a much deeper level and, as he describes it, it made him feel like he could finally truly accept his submissive side. The act itself made him feel completely dominated by me, which brought out a side of vulnerability and submission that neither of us had fully tapped into before. In those moments, he was truly mine, and that shift in power, combined with the trust we had, allowed him to express emotions he had kept bottled up. It’s powerful how something so intimate can strip away all walls and lead to such raw, open connection.

Pegging made me feel an incredible sense of power that I hadn’t experienced before – a type of sexual energy that felt like it had always been off-limits, something society had long reserved for men. It wasn’t about gender reversal or trying to “be” a man; it was about tapping into a different kind of dominance and control that was purely mine. For the first time, I felt like I was the one driving the experience, setting the pace, and taking charge in a way that made me feel deeply confident and sexy. It unlocked a part of me that had been waiting to be explored, and the empowerment I felt wasn’t just about dominating Kev physically – it was about claiming my own sexual power in a way that felt liberating, exciting, and completely natural.

Dipping Our Toes into Non-Monogamy

As our journey evolved, so did our curiosity about other types of sexual exploration. We started having conversations about non-monogamy, and while we’re still very much in the process of exploring this, it’s something we’ve both found intriguing. While I outwardly rejected the idea of cuckolding, disliking the term so much that I coined a replacement of poly-friending. The word and concept felt very disruptive to marriage and to our relationship but at the same time, I loved the idea of polyamory and compersion.

Including a third person in our marriage was something that Kev and I had never seriously considered—at least not in the way that it ended up happening. We had talked about cuckolding, played with fantasies, and explored various power dynamics, but the idea of actually bringing another man into our relationship felt like a huge step we weren’t sure we’d ever take. Then, Andrew came into our lives during a time when the world was flipped upside down. The pandemic created this weird, enclosed bubble where everything felt both surreal and deeply intimate. Without that special set of circumstances, I don’t know if we ever would have taken that plunge, but suddenly, the idea of expanding our dynamic felt right.

Andrew wasn’t just a casual addition; he became someone who reshaped how we viewed our relationship, love, and even ourselves. He wasn’t planned, but in a way, the organic, unexpected nature of it made it feel even more authentic. Kev and I had already built a strong foundation with male chastity, pegging, and the unique roles we each played, but including Andrew added an entirely new layer. It wasn’t just about sex—it was about deepening emotional connections, navigating the complex emotions of jealousy and compersion, and discovering a new sense of freedom within our marriage. Andrew brought a different energy, one that challenged us both, and it forced Kev and me to communicate more openly than we ever had before.

The experience was life-altering. Andrew’s presence in our relationship made me see myself in a different light, and it made Kev more vulnerable, more in touch with his own submission and needs. It wasn’t all easy—there were plenty of emotional hurdles to overcome, but the growth we experienced as a couple was undeniable. It’s funny to think how such a monumental change started almost by accident. I often wonder if we would have gone down this path if the world hadn’t slowed down, if the pandemic hadn’t forced us into such close quarters, allowing us the time and space to really explore what we wanted. But now, looking back at the self-discovery that it allowed both of us, I wouldn’t change a thing.

From a Humble Blog to a Thriving Community

Now, fast forward a few years from our tiny WordPress blog to what you see today: a full-fledged website, a growing email list, and a community of amazing readers who love exploring their own sexual journeys just as much as Kev and I do. We started small, but as the blog grew, so did our vision for what it could become.

At first, the blog was just a passion project, a place for me to jot down thoughts and experiences and to some extent it still is. But as more people started reading, commenting, and sharing their own stories, I realized there was a whole community of people out there who were just as eager to explore as we were. We migrated to our own domain, added new features, and started sending out newsletters to keep our readers in the loop.

When I first started running this blog, I had no idea what I was doing and for the most part I still don’t. It was a wild ride filled with rampant downtime, email hiccups, and all sorts of technical chaos and all nighters that had me pulling my hair out at times. Every little glitch felt like a major setback, and I found myself Googling solutions or reaching out for help to the wonderful community, learning the ropes of website management on the fly. But through all those frustrating moments, I embraced the chaos and turned it into a learning experience. Each challenge taught me something new, and slowly but surely, I began to navigate the ups and downs of blogging with a bit more confidence. It’s been a journey of trial and error, but I’ve loved every moment of discovering what it takes to create a space for open conversation about relationships and sexuality.

The hiccups have made for some entertaining stories but running this website sometimes feels like trying to navigate a maze blindfolded—so bear with me if I bump into a wall or take a wrong turn along the way! Your patience means the world as I figure this out!

Web Stats for September

I’ve been told by several people that I shouldn’t share web statistics, but honestly, I find it fascinating! I mean, who doesn’t love a good peek behind the curtain? To me, the numbers tell a story about the journey of this blog and the amazing community we’re building together. So, I figured, why not share it anyway? I can’t see how it could do any harm—if anything it might just make the site a bigger target for hackers but it might just spark some interesting conversations! Plus, it gives all of you a better idea of what’s going on behind the scenes, and I love keeping things transparent. So buckle up; let’s dive into the data!

With Locktober the site is growing faster than ever with new subscribers signing up every day. I’m also incredibly grateful for all the engagement on our blog posts – from comments to shares to private messages, I love hearing how our journey is inspiring yours. I apologize that I can’t respond to everyone and help with the dozens of messages I receive every day. This community is everything to me, and I’m excited to see how we’ll continue to grow together.

Sponsors and Partnerships

Over the years, we’ve been lucky enough to work with some fantastic companies that align with our values and vision for the site. We’ve partnered with sex toy companies, lingerie brands, dating sites, podcasts, authors, and even a few relationship experts who’ve contributed guest posts to the blog. Each partnership has been such a pleasure, and I’m always on the lookout for new opportunities. If you or someone you know might be interested in partnering with Evolving Your Man, let’s chat!

As we continue to grow, I’m looking to expand these partnerships even further. While you won’t be seeing any sponsored posts, I’m excited to see what the future holds. I love connecting with brands that promote healthy, positive sexual exploration, and I can’t wait to see where these partnerships take us.

The Future of Evolving Your Man

So, where do we go from here? Honestly, the sky’s the limit. This blog has been such a rewarding project for me, and I’m constantly brainstorming new ways to keep things fresh and exciting for you all. Whether it’s exploring new aspects of non-monogamy, diving deeper into our experiences with female led relationships, self discovery and venturing into topics we haven’t touched on yet, there’s always more to learn, discover, and share.

With growth, comes costs! As much as I adore running this site, it does take time, energy, and yes, money to keep it all going. Website hosting fees, email service fees, custom plugins, site maintenance, and the sheer amount of traffic we get have all added up over time. I’ve recently started offering early access to some of my blogs for supporters – a fun way to give back to those who’ve helped keep this site afloat. I don’t intend to make any sort of payment compulsory, Kev and I have known what it feels like to not be able to spare anything but if you can afford to help and you’ve enjoyed reading the blog, I would appreciate it. If you can’t afford to help, I fully understand. After a few days, the blogs will be available to everyone. This may seem like an annoying step but it is helpful in finding a way to cover the site’s costs, it’s a step in the right direction and it has always been about the journey with my loving partner Kev, the growth mindset, the exploration, and understanding what it means to be a sexually empowered woman.

One thing’s for sure: I’m not slowing down anytime soon. This journey has only just begun, and I’m so thrilled to have each and every one of you all along for the ride.

Wrapping It Up

At the end of the day, Evolving Your Man is about more than just a blog – it’s about embracing who you are, exploring new ways to connect with your partner, and creating a safe space for couples to grow together. Exploring the power dynamics in our relationship has been an eye-opening journey for both Kev and me.

The number one piece of feedback I’ve received is that you all want more visibility into my life, and I totally get it! For a while, I found myself making decisions based on whether I wanted to blog about them or not, which led me to focus on broader topics instead. While I enjoyed exploring those themes, I missed sharing the more personal aspects of my life with Kev and me. So, moving forward, you can expect to see more specifics about our dynamic and our experiences than I’ve been sharing over the last year. I’m excited to let you in on our journey, the ups and downs, and everything in between, because at the end of the day, it’s those real moments that make this blog truly special!

As a woman, I’ve been embracing my power in ways I never thought possible, diving into the depths of my sexuality and asserting my desires. At the same time, Kev has been courageously allowed himself to experience vulnerability and submission in a way that deepens our connection. This exchange isn’t about one of us dominating the other; it’s about understanding the full spectrum of life, love, and sexuality. Allowing me to take a role of female leadership by exploring these dynamics together, we’re not just enhancing our relationship; we’re growing individually as well. There’s something beautiful about pushing boundaries and stepping outside our comfort zones, and I’m excited for what’s ahead as we navigate this journey together. Let’s continue to learn from each other, challenge societal norms, and redefine what it means to love and connect in a truly authentic way!

Thank you for being part of this journey with Kev and me. We’ve come a long way since those first tentative steps into male chastity, and I can’t wait to see where the future takes us. And hey I’m here, if you ever have any comments, criticism, questions or ideas for future posts, post in the forum. I’d love to hear from you and if you haven’t introduced yourself, please do so in the introductions area!

Thank you and welcome, I’m so happy you are here.
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