Listening, Learning, and Evolving: Your Feedback on EvolvingYourMan.com

by | Feb 2, 2025 | 7 comments

First of all, thank you! Your feedback means the world to me. I created EvolvingYourMan.com as a space for open conversations, exploration, and understanding of female-led relationships (FLRs) and the various dynamics that come with them. Over time, the site has evolved (pun intended), and it’s because of thoughtful, candid input from readers like you.

After reviewing recent survey responses, a few common themes emerged from the 122 wonderful people that took time to give feedback. If you didn't get a chance to submit your feedback please feel free to throw some thought down, I'd love more helpful insights.

One of the most frequent pieces of feedback was that there has been a heavy focus on cuckolding content lately, and some readers would prefer more coverage of other FLR-related topics—especially dominance/submission dynamics, male chastity, and the ‘knight and queen’ style of female-led relationships. Some of you enjoy the cuckold fantasy, while others feel it can overshadow the broader aspects of FLRs. I hear you, and I'll do my best to balance my current fascination and journey with the journey that you are asking for. I write about what is fascinating and exciting to me but I'll attempt to bring more balance to the content.

Another popular request was for more male voices on the blog. Many readers asked if Kev could contribute posts from his perspective, sharing his thoughts and feelings as a partner in an FLR. Some of you expressed curiosity about how men experience submission and power exchange in relationships, and how they process these dynamics emotionally. This is a great idea and Kev has agreed to do an AMA type post, if you would like to contribute to that, please submit your questions.

While many of you enjoy the focus on female empowerment, some also want to hear about how men experience these relationships. What does Kev love about me? What stood out to Erik when we first met? A bit of “male energy” sprinkled into the blog would give a more rounded perspective. I’ll look at ways to add this element in an engaging way but I also want the site to have more of a female voice and female appeal. I feel like there is already so much content from a male perspective and I'm hopeful that mine can be a little different. I of course also know that I don't speak for every woman so diversity is key.

A few of you shared that while you appreciate content on various kinks, you’re most drawn to the posts that focus on broader relationship dynamics, communication, and male-female sexuality. Some readers feel that when intense kinks like cuckolding appear in general discussions about FLRs, it can make the entire lifestyle feel niche or intimidating to newcomers. Others expressed that kink-heavy discussions attract certain readers who engage in a way that shifts the tone of the forum. This is valuable insight, and I’ll be looking into ways to make the site more welcoming for those exploring FLRs at different levels. …

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agentstix

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Michael

I don’t think the community needs a counselor. I have nothing against counseling. If you need help as a couple or for yourself counseling is the way to go. But people who read this blog site are adults. They know what’s harmful to a relationship. Not having good communication skills. Not listening to your partner ( really listening). Not caring about your partners boundaries. Counselor please put your concerns in the comments section after reading the blog post, like everyone else.

williamportor
  1. What aspects of an FLR do you wish were more widely discussed in mainstream relationship advice? – – Tease and denial
  2. If you could ask Kev (or Erik) anything about their experience in an FLR, what would it be? – – No feedback necessary
  3. Do you feel that certain kinks overshadow the broader conversation about FLRs? How can we strike a better balance? – – Cuckolding and romantic relationship issues have overshadowed enforced male chastity and discipline i.e. corporal punishment and extra chastity lock up time for unacceptable behavior or comments.
  4. Would an audio component make it easier for you to engage with blog content? – – Yes, Female voice(s) featuring subliminal content males could play to psychology accept their roles as cuckolds, or submissive males, and/or denied males (example below)
  5. How has discovering FLR principles changed your relationship or personal outlook on love and intimacy? – – I find myself submitting to women when in public i.e. letting them decide what we should do, letting them walk in front of me, letting them choose which restaurant we should go to etc.

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jstump

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jay

Emma. This opportunity to provide feedback is amazing. At the risk of sounding like a fanboy, I really do appreciate this fantastic venue because it truly is a valuable resource for grown-ups to discuss grown-up things. You are imminently fair and open-minded, even for those who vehemently disagree with you, even to the point of point being ignorant jackasses. The fact that a modicum of intelligence and courtesy is necessary to engage here and that you will only tolerate a little nonsense helps to keep the horned-up gooners, trollers and cretins away. I appreciate that very much.

Yes, I feel this amazing site has evolved (see what I did there?) into content that is often too heavy on things that I don’t have an interest in, like cuckolding and humiliation. It does seem at times that it is a given that those things are somewhat necessary ingredients in a FLR/WLM. Of course, they are not.

They urged me to consult relationship counselors to gauge the long-term impact of this content. While I certainly agree that cuckold relationships are not for everyone and I understand their perspective, I firmly believe that relationships thrive on communication, trust, and understanding.”

I know that you steadfastly believe in the importance of communication, trust, and understanding. You have never wavered on that, and for that, I am grateful. As your mysterious “relationship counselor” points out, the risks lie in the long-term ramifications. Many believe they are effectively and deeply communicating, and trust and understanding are mutually established. As we know, people evolve (*wink). If they grow into realizing that perhaps they fooled themselves because he was telling her that it was ok for her to fuck other men or for her to humiliate him with mean words because he was afraid to lose her if he didn’t (lying to himself), what they are left with a relationship that has permanently damaged at its core.

All that being said, Emma, you are the very best source of content, information, and education for WLM/FLR’s on the internet. Count me among those who very much appreciate this:

We Want More FLR
One of the most frequent pieces of feedback was that there has been a heavy focus on cuckolding content lately, and some readers would prefer more coverage of other FLR-related topics—especially dominance/submission dynamics, male chastity, and the ‘knight and queen’ style of female-led relationships. Some of you enjoy the cuckold fantasy, while others feel it can overshadow the broader aspects of FLRs. I hear you, and I’ll do my best to balance my current fascination and journey with the journey that you are asking for. I write about what is fascinating and exciting to me but I’ll attempt to bring more balance to the content.

Your understanding and acknowledgment of this is appreciated.

God Bless you, Emma, and keep up the fantastic work!

ballast

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kw99

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ballast

I’ve been perusing FLR material for a few years now. The vast majority of it quickly goes full femdom and seems to be geared toward men with those fantasies. Search “FLR” under Amazon books and you’ll see what I mean.

And that’s totally fine. I’m into some of that stuff too. What’s rare, though, are sites/media which easily separate FLR from femdom — where femdom, chastity, cuckholding etc. are treated more like optional add-ons to a core FLR (which can vary a lot in itself). I’ve seen some demand for that approach, and I also think it’s more likely to appeal to women broadly. Most women I know may be interested in some FLR concepts, but they’d be driven off by some of the kinkier stuff.

Thank you for thoroughly listening to and reflecting on the feedback.

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jay

What’s rare, though, are sites/media which easily separate FLR from femdom — where femdom, chastity, cuckholding etc. are treated more like optional add-ons to a core FLR (which can vary a lot in itself).”

Very well said.

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  1. What aspects of an FLR do you wish were more widely discussed in mainstream relationship advice? The less sexy aspects of FLR, like the day to day lives of people who subscribe to this lifestyle.
  2. If you could ask Kev (or Erik) anything about their experience in an FLR, what would it be? I would ask Erik, what exactly does he want out of the relationship and does he ever desire to be loved by someone how you love Kev? I would ask Kev if he would ever consider being Erik’s wingman out on the town, potentially helping him score a lady for himself.
  3. Do you feel that certain kinks overshadow the broader conversation about FLRs? How can we strike a better balance? Yes, I do believe cuckolding in particular overshadows FLR and is off-putting for many newbies interested in the lifestyle, especially women. I think to balance out the kinks it would be interesting to hear from more women about what they desire from FLR, and not so much the male kink driven perspective.
  4. Would an audio component make it easier for you to engage with blog content? It would actually be cool if you made a podcast perhaps talking about several blog posts nothing crazy maybe 10-15 minutes. Personally I think the viewership alone would cover the costs and generate revenue for years to come. A LOT of people are interested about this lifestyle, but so much is just click bait male fantasy. Men need to hear from actual real women about their desires, since this is female led relationships.
  5. How has discovering FLR principles changed your relationship or personal outlook on love and intimacy? Honestly in too many ways to name. Personally I trust my wife more than ever and feel safe with her. I’m less tempered. I’m more humble. Also my main focus is how can I make her life easier and better. Our intimacy is great and she is never feeling ignored or denied, sexually, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, or financially. This blog has helped awaken my desire for FLR, however I do skip over the cuckold stuff.
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