6 Steps to Cleanup For Pegging and Better Anal Play

Even though I haven’t spent much time around barfy, poopy little humans or been desensitized by the endless diaper cleanups that come with parenthood, I’ll be the first to admit that an unexpected cleanup for pegging can still make me a little squeamish. For me, there is nothing that can zap the mood faster than the anxiety of an unexpected mess, especially when you’re gearing up for something so intimate and exciting.

I’ve talked a lot about the psychology of pegging—how it can reinforce trust, deepen your connection, and beautifully shift power dynamics in a way that feels both loving and empowering. But I haven’t really gotten into the nitty-gritty details of what it takes to keep things clean, comfortable, and worry-free while you’re dominating him in this most intimate and wonderfully satisfying way. So, let’s break down the practical side of things—because when you’re prepared and confident, you can focus less on the “what-ifs” and more on the incredible pleasure pegging has to offer.

While pegging and anal play are packed with pleasure and empowerment, just the idea of poop can make even the most adventurous among us squeamish. It’s the uninvited guest no one wants crashing their fun. Whether it’s your first time getting pegged or you’re a pro bottom preparing for a marathon peg-fest, having a solid cleanup plan can make the experience smooth, comfortable, and accident free.

Cleanups will happen but they distract from the experience and a mess during anal play can happen from time to time but is a major buzzkill. It’s why I always ask Kev to take care of a pre-peg cleanup before we get started. It keeps the experience sexy, sensual, and squeamish-free.

So, let’s strip away the awkwardness and talk about what matters: how to clean up like a pro, the tools you’ll need, and how to relax so you can dive into all that delicious backside fun with confidence.

Why Does Cleanup Matter?

The anatomy of the rectum is pretty simple: it’s not just a pleasure zone—it’s also the final stop before, well, poop exits the body. Thankfully, the rectum doesn’t store poop for long, and a little preparation goes a long way to keep things clean.

Proper cleanup reduces the chance of a mess, eases anxiety, and makes anal play more pleasurable because—guess what—worrying about poop will definitely hold you back from fully relaxing and enjoying yourself.

Pre-Peg Prep: A Step-by-Step Guide to Cleaning Up

Here’s your no-nonsense, easy-to-follow checklist to get prepped for pegging, whether you’re in for a quickie or a full-night romp:

1. Timing Is Everything

Timing your pre-peg cleanup is critical. Ideally, clean yourself out 1–2 hours before your session. This gives your body enough time to “settle” so you’re not rushing to the bathroom mid-peg. If you eat a big meal beforehand, give yourself a little extra time to digest.

Pegging Pro Tip: Keep your meals light and avoid heavy, greasy foods or too much fiber on days when you know pegging is on the menu. Save the bean burrito for tomorrow.

2. Hit the Bathroom

Start with the basics: go to the bathroom. Try to have a bowel movement naturally before you even think about cleanup tools. Don’t force anything—just relax and let nature do its thing. If you’re constipated, warm water, a light walk, or a gentle abdominal massage can help get things moving.

3. Rinse with a Shower or Bidet

A little rinse can go a long way. After using the bathroom, hop in the shower and give the area a good wash with warm water. Avoid harsh soaps or anything scented; your bum’s skin is sensitive and doesn’t need all that. If you’re lucky enough to have a bidet, now’s the time to enjoy the luxury.

Pegging Pro Tip: If you’re short on time, unscented baby wipes can be a lifesaver for a quick cleanup, but they’re not a substitute for a proper rinse when prepping for serious play.

4. Use an Anal Douche or Bulb

This is where the magic happens, and a small anal douche becomes your best friend. Here’s how to use it:

1. Pick the Right Tool: Anal douches (also called enema bulbs) are easy to find and typically made of medical-grade silicone or rubber. You can find them online or at most pharmacies.
2. Fill It Up: Use warm water—never hot or cold—because the rectal lining is very sensitive. Lukewarm is perfect. Avoid soaps, additives, or harsh enemas; water is all you need. You aren’t looking to clean your insides, just flush the cavity that you will be using for playtime.
3. Insert and Squeeze: Lubricate the tip of the bulb for comfort, insert it gently into your rectum, and slowly squeeze the water inside. Hold the water in for about 10–30 seconds, then release it into the toilet.
4. Repeat (If Needed): You may need to do this 2–3 times until the water runs clear. But don’t overdo it—too much douching can irritate your rectum and make it harder to relax later.

Pegging Pro Tip: Don’t douche more than once or twice a week. Regular douching can disrupt the natural balance of your rectum and make it harder for your body to function normally. This is one of the reasons we try to limit pegging to twice a week.

5. Relax and Let Your Body Settle

After douching, relax for a bit to make sure you’re all set and there aren’t any lingering urges to run back to the bathroom.

This is a great time to breathe deeply, listen to some music, or even start warming up with foreplay. The key to great anal play is relaxation, so don’t skip this step.

6. Lube Up (and Don’t Hold Back!)

Lube isn’t part of cleanup, but it is your best friend for making anal play fun and comfortable. The rectum doesn’t naturally produce lubrication, so you’ll need a generous amount of lube.

• Water-based lubes are versatile and easy to clean but may require reapplication.
• Silicone-based lubes are long-lasting and perfect for marathon sessions but harder to clean up.

Pegging Pro Tip: Keep a towel nearby to wipe away excess lube—it’s all part of keeping things tidy.

The Mental Game: Relaxing Before Play

Beyond physical preparation, relaxing your mind is just as important as cleaning up. Worrying about “what ifs” can ruin the fun.

Here’s how to ease your mind and get in the right headspace:

• Communicate: Talk to your partner (or partners!) about any worries or boundaries. Reassure each other that it’s all part of the experience and no big deal.
• Breathe: Deep breathing helps relax your pelvic muscles, making insertion easier and more pleasurable.
• Focus on the Fun: Think about how much pleasure and intimacy pegging brings to your relationship. Confidence starts with excitement, not fear.

Tools Make Cleanup For Pegging Easier

Here’s a quick list of essentials to keep on hand for a stress-free cleanup:

• Anal Douche/Bulb: Simple, reusable, and effective for a quick rinse.
• Unscented Baby Wipes: Great for a quick tidy-up pre- or post-play.
• Lube (Lots of It!): Silicone or water-based, depending on your session length.
• Towels: Keep a couple handy to clean up excess lube or water.
• A Calm Mind: Prep, relax, and trust the process.

What If Something Happens?

If you and your partner encounter a little unexpected mess, don’t panic—just handle it with ease and humor. Pause for a moment to clean up together, treating it as a natural part of the experience rather than an embarrassment. A quick reset can help maintain the mood, and reassuring each other that these things happen will only strengthen your bond. Open conversations and lightheartedness go a long way in making sure you both stay comfortable and connected.

Once everything is tidied up, you can decide whether to continue or call it a night—there’s always next time! The key to pegging, like any intimate activity, is to focus on connection, pleasure, and mutual enjoyment rather than striving for perfection. The more at ease you are with your body and your partner’s, the more fun and fulfilling the experience will be. Approach it with patience, curiosity, and a sense of playfulness, and you’ll find that comfort and confidence come naturally over time.

Pegging is about connection, intimacy, dominance, submission, play and pleasure, not perfection. The more comfortable you are with your body (and your partner’s), the easier it gets.

Evolving Your Conversation

1. How do you and your partner feel about introducing pegging or anal play into your relationship?
2. What concerns or anxieties have kept you from trying it, and how can you address them together?
3. What are some small steps you can take to make cleanup and relaxation period feel less intimidating and perhaps even an exciting part of your pre-play routine?