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Modern Marriage: 5 Ways to Flip His Perspective

We all know that negative reinforcement doesn’t work and chastity cages are not meant as a punishment; at least not the way that I recommend using them. You can choose to see it as taking his sexual freedom away or you can opt to see it as liberating him from a negative sexual feedback loop.… Continue reading Modern Marriage: 5 Ways to Flip His Perspective

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Modern Marriage: Using chastity as a tool and not a weapon

In some relationships, the cage is used as a tool to coerce the man to proactively be something or act a certain way. In other relationships the cage can be used as a way to punish the husband or atone for an action or lack of action. One of these is a proactive and positive… Continue reading Modern Marriage: Using chastity as a tool and not a weapon

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Relationships: One very simple solution to get a night owl and an early bird on the same schedule

I’ve always been an early riser. I get up bright and early every morning while Kev is up late every night. Watching movies, playing video games, whatever he does. I like to get up early and start my day with the sun and end my day when the sun is going down. Approximately 25 percent… Continue reading Relationships: One very simple solution to get a night owl and an early bird on the same schedule

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Orgasm Denial: Starting Slow With “No-Nut Night”

Male orgasm denial has many benefits that we’ve covered on this blog, the male and female orgasms are very different. The female orgasm is designed to promote closeness and pair bonding while the male orgasm is intended to push the man along to the next mating opportunity. The female orgasm gives you those magical feelings… Continue reading Orgasm Denial: Starting Slow With “No-Nut Night”

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Lazy Husband? 5 steps to motivate him to be a better partner

Do you have a husband who is lazy & unmotivated? Are you looking for ways to help regain some excitement in your marriage and in his day to day. Men can be absolutely amazing. Do you remember how he was when you first started dating? He was just like the man he is today but… Continue reading Lazy Husband? 5 steps to motivate him to be a better partner

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Male Chastity: Getting comfortable with a locked husband or boyfriend

One of the more challenging parts of incorporating chastity into your otherwise vanilla relationship is getting comfortable with a lock and key becoming part of your relationship dynamic. We’ve talked about the benefits of incorporating male chastity into your relationship and I won’t go into those for this blog but here are a couple options… Continue reading Male Chastity: Getting comfortable with a locked husband or boyfriend

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Orgasm Denial: Is Denying Your Husband’s Orgasm Manipulative?

There is little question that orgasm denial is manipulation of something by someone. The real question is whether you are manipulating something (the body) or someone (the husband). Specifically, what exactly is being manipulated? The word manipulative is typically used in the negative context but is it really negative all of the time? The dictionary… Continue reading Orgasm Denial: Is Denying Your Husband’s Orgasm Manipulative?

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Chastity Fetish: My Husband Wants Me to Lock Him Up

I don’t know your husband but my guess is that he is willing to do nearly anything to make you feel loved and supported. I am also guessing that you and your husband may not be completely aligned when it comes to love languages. When you are really hurting or feeling alone, he can usually… Continue reading Chastity Fetish: My Husband Wants Me to Lock Him Up

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Taking Charge: How it Makes Him Feel

Strong women are typically honest, independent, confident and they aren’t afraid to be themselves. I haven’t always felt the level of confidence that I do now. Confidence was especially hard to find during high school while I was finding myself. Once I found myself, I realized that I am pretty happy with the person that… Continue reading Taking Charge: How it Makes Him Feel