How long have you been locked up?

Hi Emma,

Ok, I took your directive to register and reply in the forum. After all, you are a KH, and I am locked. ? 

I should clarify that I am talking about orgasm denial period. I was not in chastity 24 hours/7 days, I had a lot of free breaks out of the cage. Sometimes full days, full nights, but I was constantly respecting the moral engagement of no orgasms and no masturbation allowed. KH made sure I was in chastity while I was at home to minimize the risk.

The longest experience I had been without a release is 44 days. My KH found out about Locktober while we were already half way through the month, and I was denied until the end of the month. Back then my previous record was around 12 days, so going to the end of the month for 2 weeks was already though. KH complained that I should have told her about Locktober before, and that I am not getting away with this, and I have to continue half way to November.

It is an exhilarating emotion when you are discussing verbally your denial period as I my release date kept being pushed away. A Rollo coaster of emotions where you are excited and you even have doubt that your KH is really serious. You also feel you are getting the punishment of your life that you deserve for all those out of control orgasms marathon I did. The feeling was linked with a domination fantasy of mine, but this was different than a Pornhub fantasy that last about 10 mins video. In fact, it felt more like a running marathon.

In the last 2 weeks, I felt back to the harsh reality of a grinding days. There was no longer discussion/excitation about the release date. It was just repetitive days after days, just waiting to get it over with. On the release day, I could barely move inside her, and came so quickly that I did not even have time to enjoy it. I fell asleep thinking it is finally over, I did it and proved something to myself. I have no desire to do it again for longer period, been there done that.

I stay locked unless my girlfriend wants to use me. So basically 24/7 at this point. But probably average being released briefly about once every 10 days or so. Doesn't necessarily mean I'll get to orgasm or anything. But she loves feeling me inside her. She does a great job of teasing and keeping interest up. The teasing and denial is more fun than I expected. As great as orgasms are, once I've had one, I'm done. With teasing and playing we both want to go all night.

Certainly not a world record, but 14 days continuous without being unlocked is my longest.   

Posted by: Patches

As great as orgasms are, once I've had one, I'm done. With teasing and playing we both want to go all night.

This is so correct, and gets to the heart of what's so addicting about her control over me.  I've gone as long as 6 weeks without an orgasm, with lots of teasing nightly as well as PIV sex without my orgasm.  Even giving me oral without finishing...omg.

But the cage makes it even more powerful. So far, have only made it 7 continuous days without uncaged.  Life gets in the way sometimes.  It only takes ~1/2 day or so for me to start falling back under her spell when the cage is on.  During the 3rd day, especially with infrequent orgasms already her plan for me, I'm usually leaking. Usually at 5-7 days I'm throbbing, achy balls, and so want to have at least just an erection.  Beyond that, well..we're working up to it I think. I am curious to see how it feels with longer times, and she enjoys seeing me tormented. And of course, lots of pleasure for her as the energy is focused to her body.

My main reasons for locking up is so I can be online without fapping, so I average 3 hrs a day. But I've moved from cb6000s, to holy trainer, to panty girdle. The girdle is most effective at allowing no erection, and lets me sit easier than the other two.  That said, nov 2018, I chose to attempt November. I was locked for over 24hrs straight once, but failed the no nut 8 times that month, for me thats a success.. reducing my monthly output to 1/5 was a significant change.  I still average 40 a month, but maybe next Nov I might go for 0.. but I doubt the cage will be the reason.  I'll need more than just one girdle though, or it'd get ripe fast...

Posted by: Emma

Just curious to see how long you all typically are locked for. How do you feel after 7 days? 14 days? 30 days? 45 days? Longer? What sort of mental and physical changes do you feel?

So I'm in the midst of a "personal best" period of being locked. I'm at 9 days. Previously, we'd never gone past 7. We have a flight in 2 days, so I expect it will end at 11. She wants to reach a new record, which we have, for the duration, and I'm curious as well. I'm sure we're working toward all of Locktober.  I've gone longer without an orgasm (6 weeks) but not in the cage.

During the time so far, I've only been unlocked one time, for some extended teasing and edging, until I had some very minor spillage. Then it was back to the cage. She told me this morning that perhaps she'd let me out for some more teasing tonight - but no orgasm. I have not been inside her but hope I get to tonight...even without my finishing. It's all up to her, not me. I don't get to ask to be uncaged. I do get to ask for my once a month orgasm, which I want on vacay in the Caribbean in a couple weeks. She, of course, gets oral every night and weekend mornings, unless she declines my offer.  Except Sunday night, which is maintenance spanking night lately.

I will say I've handled this duration fairly well, but a lot has to do with the amount of teasing. The more teasing, the more aches I get, and the more precum leakage I get. Mornings are the worst. Today, I am very achy and throbbing. But there has been less leakage overall because she has not been teasing me every single night due to life getting in the way. With the cage on, teasing tends to focus on my nipples, balls, and a bit of the penis she can reach inside the metal bars. Sometimes when I lay in bed, after she's been satisfied and we go off to sleep, I throb and ache as well, which makes sleeping a bit harder. And my nipples seem constantly hard these days...mine are normally sensitive to begin with.  

Otherwise, I've gotten accustomed to wearing it all the time and I've worn it for routine life activities more so than in the past. Because the weather is warmer, the scrotum hangs lower, making the cage ring fit better with less chafing, and that really helps with the 24/7 use. Warmer weather also allows for more CFNM time at home, which she enjoys as well.

The cage also seems to focus me on her pleasure a lot, but I think you do hit a bit of a constant state after some time...Im generally more calm, more centered on her, anxious to please her, more cuddly, and more restrained or docile. Not always, but it helps.

Like you, Emma, I'm curious how things change, and how the duration affects me.  Not sure I'll see anything more dramatic this time than I've described. Bottom line: not terribly different than the last couple of 7-day stretches, but I think it's been FAR easier to tolerate as she has not taken it out but once to tease directly.  I'm not really sure how Id react to, say, a 30 day period, but I'm sure it will happen eventually. Nor do I know whether she'd let it out during that time.  I really don't get to decide...

I am locked during the week while she is at work.  Usually after a week she unlocks me for the weekend and play.  There may be an orgasm, a ruined orgasm or no orgasm.  Sometimes she unlocks me on Friday night, other times on Saturday or Sunday, or she leaves me locked for another week.  Teasing while caged happens randomly throughout the week, depending on her desires.

She usually gets 3-5 orgasms when she makes the time for tongue, fingers and the vibe.  PIV is not often as it has become painful for her.

We went for a couple weeks without PIV and I got sore as well. I found that inserting a dildo while resting or watching television for 30-45 minutes per day helps stretch things back out. It is also nice for Kevin to enjoy seeing something in there when he isn't allowed.

In our case it is post menopausal.  We are trying DHEA to see if that helps.

I've now reached nearly 3 weeks, with only ~36 hours "free" due to a one night airline trip. Most of the time I have not been uncaged at all. A few times I've been released and edged for a while. Once I was allowed inside, but after her orgasm, I was told to pull out, and ruin on her stomach, clean it all up, then lick her to another. Otherwise, it's been oral for her and only limited teasing for me, and absolutely nothing for me following a couple disciplinary sessions...she knows I love to lick her and she denies me that as well after I've been spanked.

I feel so connected to her, and can't wait to please her however she likes. I'm trying to be more helpful around the house (which I already do a lot of as I work at home). I want her to feel special. I  also like how close we are, and my personality is hopefully mellowed a bit as we focus on each other. While I often throb in the cage, especially in the mornings, I don't feel as if I'm missing anything, as I get a lot of pleasure from licking her, and having her enjoy it so much.

We leave in a couple days for a week in the Caribbean, so I'm sure I'll be free much more often. I've asked for my monthly allowed orgasm to happen on the trip, but not sure when it will be. I actually suspect she will give me a fair amount of freedom, so she can enjoy me whenever and however she wants. OTOH, we've talked about being caged while on the beach or at the pool in my board shorts.. so we shall see...as well as if anyone notices the (real) key around her ankle (as opposed to the bling-y decorative one she wears around her neck at times). Vacations are liberating, and I confess to a certain desire to be "outed" by someone who knows and asks. But it's not her style, nor is it up to me, so again, we'll see what happens.

Regardless, I'm really looking forward to a real release...this is the longest period of (mostly) full time caged ever. It's a two edged sword, as I tell her...I love it, but t's not easy at times, either. But I sure do love what it does to me as far as making me a better partner to her.

...and she told me last night that when we get back, I'll most likely be caged for the next month, no doubt due to the extended freedom while on vacation. As it is, I'm regularly leaking and throbbing; but I also continue to feel a constant, strong & loving connection to her. 

When I was being caged (chaste here using the trust method), my longest was 11 days in the cage.  It was not fun.  This is the reason why my wife uses the actual cage for punishment purposes when she is particularly disappointed in me.

33 days is my current record. In June I went 29 days and 27 in July. We’re both wondering what it would be like to go 100 days locked and denied. There were a few times where I was unlocked for cleaning but that was it. She wants to see if I can beet the 33 day record on this current period. I’m on day 7 now and honestly having more trouble not thinking about it. I don’t think I was mentally prepared to be locked back up and denied when she told me to get the cage this time. We are having fun and the frustration brings some level of joy to me. 

I think Kevin will be participating in Locktober this year. We may not beat your 33 day record but 31 won't be too bad.