[Solved] Pegging

I am glad that you are enjoying the blog. The feeling of pegging is interesting, it doesn't feel like you are beating him in the context of hurting or getting the best of him. It feels more along the lines of penetrating him and accepting his submission to you. My feelings about pegging are really interesting and do change depending on the mood of the encounter with him. Some days, I do take out some pent up aggression (sorry hun) and other days, it is an extremely intimate experience where we grow closer than any other type of sexual act.

I suggest that you cast shame away from sex regardless of what you do. Nothing about sex should be shameful with the right partner. You can do things that are exciting, rewarding, empowering and downright humiliating without ever allowing shame into your world.

Be trysexual. Try everything once and see how it works for you. If it isn't a good fit, don't do it again.

I have never been pegged, but personally, there's no way I could turn that down. It doesn't make you any less of a man, just someone who is secure in his identity and his sexuality.

That said, it sounds like you may want someone more vanilla or more loving and nurturing than your current lady. Though if you've been with her two years, something must be right. But I would try it for sure.

Being pegged can feel great. Sometimes it's uncomfortable but that's usually fixed with a change in angle. (higher or lower) Pegging isn't anything different than other aspects of a sexual relationship. If it makes you uncomfortable, you shouldn't do it. Talk through it and, at some point, you might be willing. Regardless of the activity, I would question if I have the right partner if they were pressuring me to do something that made me feel uncomfortable. Trust is so important.

Perfectly said, JC & Patches. I love all of the fantastic input that you all give to this site. 

Actually I am here for a reason similar to that of anon at the beginning , its about pegging. I have been married with my wife for a year now and been together for three years. I could really use an advice about my thing. Is it ok if i asked?

Its a very long story and the details arent important to be honest. Short of it, it was my wifes birthday and i at the night was one of the gifts on her birthday and told her i am free for her to do whatever she wants to me. To be clear i didnt even remotely mean or even consider pegging or anything like that. what i meant at best is maybe, just maybe tying me up at most. But she pegged me, now i am having a confusion on things and i would really want an advice on it. When she pegged me, she had me blindfolded and tied up and hands behind my back. I told her to stop but she said that i promised her i wont say no to anything she does to me, it was her birthday so i was fine with it, it few rams in my ass i will just forget about it when its done. Now to be clear, i strongly believe ,or maybe used to believe i cant really tell i am really confused and emotional at the moment, that women cant peg men to make them enjoy it and i think arent tough enough to do that to men, i think. To be perfectly honest i cant fully tell anything anymore. I mean, its one thing to let her just have her way just for one night, but to my shame, at some point i just , and i cant believe i am saying this plz dont judge me for it, i enjoyed it . She had me biting the bed and ,gosh this is so humiliating to even say, moaning like a woman, like literally my voice was like that of a woman when i moaned . So in a way i am feeling in a way humiliated. I am really confused about how i am feeling, when talking to her she said to me that that was , and thats what she calls it, my pathological masculinity fucked out of me. I am so ashamed to say this but a part of me wants to do it again, in a way i enjoyed it, but i am so damn confused.

@liam

There is nothing to be ashamed of. The prostate gland, when stimulated is capable of giving great pleasure and can even give you an orgasm if you are able to relax and enjoy it. I understand why it might be confusing but just accept that you enjoy this new type of lovemaking together and go with it. Nobody here is judging you, set aside your feelings of humiliation and explain what you liked about it. I wrote a blog about pegging from her perspective that you might find interesting. Here is another that you might like. Ask any questions that you might have. You might also consider the podcast "Ruby Ryder's Pegging Paradise" which is a fantastic resource about enjoying pegging together.

One thing I would like to note about pegging is that if it hurts, you are doing it wrong. Go slower, use a different angle, do more foreplay to help you relax. It really shouldn't be a punishment. It can be very pleasurable for the man and the woman both.

Welcome to the site!

It isnt a punishment at all. I just felt , in a way, defeated.  Cause i found it in a way humiliatingly ironic, that i always thought women didnt have it in them to do that to a man . And in a way it was what she was saying while she did to me that made me feel a bit confused, that i am not used to admitting how strong women can be and she  showed me how in a way. I think in a way she forced the respect in me, in a way. I mean how can you not admit the womens power when she is having you from behind, tied and blindfolded while pulling my hair and saying things like , i thought you said women cant keep up with men, then why are you moaning like one. All while i moaned and asked for more. thats why i felt so wrecked.

oh anon sweetie, i am sorry if you are feeling confused about your emotions, my bf was confused as well at the beginning but i was there for him, so i really suggest and think you should talk to your woman about your feelings. I think in my personal opinion that that pegging though did you good considering you said that before that you didnt think women were tough enough, or didnt have it in them to do what men can do, i think that that defeat as you described it, in a way humbled you and out you in your place, though like emma said, pegging shouldnt be forced on you, you should want it. So talk to your woman and dont be shy away from expressing your emotions. Side note, i am really glad that you see now that we women can put you men in your place and fuck your ass well now in bed. 

Pegging is one of the most intimate ways a man and woman can make love.  It doesn't have to be in the context of an acknowledge Wife Led Marriage (like I am in), but it certainly does help.  

Normally I am not allowed to ejaculate when I have sex with my wife.  I have learned to cherish the act of being intimate with her, and to especially enjoy being present when she orgasms.  Truth be told, for the most her orgasms are my orgasms.  Ejaculations (and even orgasms) do occur but never without permission.  It's the intimacy I desire, even after sex ... not the orgasm during sex.  

My two favorite ways of receiving her peg are missionary position, and on my tummy, laying flat, legs together.  Missionary allows a deep, intimate exchange between her and I because I am able to look into her eyes while she is, well, fucking me.  On my tummy is a position that is more primal and is incredible when I am in subspace in my head and relishing in the moment by offering my body to her this way.

In short, pegging is incredible!