Checking in from UK

Delighted to find this site.

We are a busy couple with teen family. We are evolving towards female non monogamy, but it is a slow foggy process putting the pieces in place. I found this site because I (male) wanted to know if Compersion went so far as to be erotic rather than just warm and fuzzy romantic. If it can be then it might explain something. From my earliest recollection of erotic fantasies and subsequently porn it was 'taken' women having sex with other men. I thought it was consensual voyeurism, but I think it is more subtle. Do you know how all the lads envy and thrill at every conquest of Don Juan as see their testosterone tick up. Its that, but in my case when a taken woman sexually conquers/ yields to another man---I am thrilled for her, proud of her, excited for her and powerfully tuned on in parallel to her. Is that compersion?

Following the though process along I would say that I think my turn-ons are, in order:

1. Compersion
2. Naughtiness
3. Consensual Voyeurism
4. Humiliation-liberation to step back from intercourse
5. sex other than intercourse
6. intercourse

Currently, 1, 3 and 4 are mostly fantasized during sex. Not entirely as her flirting in public, creating erotic tension with strangers, and diminishing me as just another random guest at functions does create a strong vicarious thrill

Thanks - that is me lol

Kindest

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