After 10 years of self locking, I finally got my wife to try being a keyholder.  But that conversation was brutal, and. I don’t think it will work with pg 13 conversations.  But she has turned into I strict keyholder and I’ve been locked in chastity for two months.  I should get released tomorrow.  Woop ee

introducing chastity is hard -- not just because of the difficult conversation, fear of rejection, being vulnerable -- honestly, that might be the easy part.  The hard part is not being able to define what the use case is going to be and not going to be.  Chastity is dynamic -- and that is weird as far as sexual lifestylfes, fetishes, and kinks go.  What do I mean by that? Most kinks don't branch out into having a dozen plus other kinks tangentially included. Whenever I read about someone in chastity, I think it is about how they incorporated chastity into their other kinks. I don't think that is common with other kinks.  Here are my examples: if you are into golden showers or tie and tease, no one is going to say, "oh, so you want to be a cuck, never fuck again and get feminized?" Like, that just doesn't happen.  For me, I had an edging fetish, and for better or worse, edging erotica brought me to chastity.  I had never heard of or desired chastity.  Curiosity eventually won over.  But being into edging does not automatically assume pegging.  But I will explain it the best I can -- the other thing that makes chastity different is it can become her fetish too -- but it is shared in a different way.  A woman may really enjoy edging guys, for example, so that is shared, but the enjoyment and experience overlap a lot.  In chastity, her enjoyment does not align the same way.  Chastity is a power transfer fetish. For some men, it may only supposed to be delayed gratification fetish, but I think in many couples and for women, is a power transfer fetish.  So, if you unlock a power transfer fetish in a woman, what other ideas might seem very consistent to her. Women are expected to eat cum.  Women are expected to be penetrated (even anally). Women are expected to wear pretty lingerie.  So, I agree with you -- I would prefer more "basic" chastity content.  As I said, I was into edging and the occasional orgasm denial -- so, as I said above a delayed gratification fetish.  What I wanted from chastity was "be a good boy for 3 days and you can have a big O."  But the power transfer took over.  For both of us.  I totally agree with you - the fact that it is almost impossible to recommend a resource without exposing her to 30 kinks instead of 1 is daunting. In our relationship, she already knew I liked teasing and edging.  We played orgasm denial games.  So, when I introduced chastity it was an extension of that, I was able to say, "this might help you tease me, want to try it?" But, btw, I love getting pegged, so that happened.