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Is a "switch" situation possible?  

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Birdstrike
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So: One marries a strong, capable woman - only to find out that they see themselves as "submissive" in the bedroom. Great: two submissives! 

What to do? Flip a coin? A "switch" arrangement isn't possible, is it? 

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Posted : 24/10/2019 4:44 am
Namron
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Take control by giving her control.  For example, make it all about her pleasure one time.  IOW, put off having an orgasm and give her what gives her the most pleasure.  That could be a foot and/or back rub.  It could be going down on her.  Whatever it is make it about her with no reciprocal demands on your part.  If she insists on doing something for you, try to keep it non-sexual or at least non-orgasmic.

You know her best, so map out a scenario that you think she would enjoy and go from there,

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Posted : 24/10/2019 7:54 pm
Birdstrike
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@namron

'Good advice. Thank you for your insight.

 

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Posted : 24/10/2019 10:25 pm
Patches
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Of course it's possible. Very possible if that's what you want. We switch constantly. Almost. She keeps the cage locked on me all the time unless she's feeling very submissive. Then she lets me know where she left the keys. "In case you need them."  It's fun taking and then surrendering control. Especially after long days at work and life.

There's always tomorrow.

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Posted : 24/10/2019 10:37 pm
Birdstrike
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@patches

Fascinating! Honestly, you are the first person I've come across that indicates this. This is good to know - 'takes a lot of pressure off both parties. 

Thanks again!

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Posted : 25/10/2019 2:02 am
Dplaything
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@birdstrike

We have a similar "arrangement' as Patches.

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Posted : 25/10/2019 8:24 pm
Birdstrike
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@dplaything

Thank you - that's good to know!

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Posted : 25/10/2019 11:41 pm
Emma
 Emma
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I have to agree here. There are various levels of submission. I do want Kevin to take charge sometimes but he knows that ultimately his orgasm comes only with my permission. We may have a wonderful evening of dinner, drinks and passionate sex but when the end of the evening comes he knows to look to me to determine if he will be allowed a sexual release. That doesn't change the dynamic of the evening, he was certainly in control for much of the night but that one aspect reminded him that I have the final say.

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Posted : 26/10/2019 12:55 am
Dplaything
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@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

That sounds very much like us too.  🙂

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Posted : 26/10/2019 1:19 am
Birdstrike
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Amazing. This has been helpful, as much of what I've read can seem almost "binary" - one or the other. Thank you all for sharing. 

 

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Posted : 26/10/2019 8:06 am
UnderHerControl
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I was thinking about this the other day and if my lady indicated a need to be submissive at times I would do my best to accommodate her. I know how wonderful that feeling of surrender is and she should have that also if she wants it. If you approach it from the the stand point of giving each other what they need and also being the person that is honored to return the favor then it should be a win-win. In other words relish in sub space one day and celebrate making your partner feel that euphoria the next. 

 

Allen

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Posted : 05/11/2019 12:02 am
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