[Closed] Penelopa and her husband

Welcome to the site! Lots of nice people and interesting conversations here. Cant wait for you to contribute!

I just noticed that you said PA lock. I've considered that for Kevin but he seems quite opposed to a piercing down there. How well does the PA lock work? It does seem like a rather drastic step but would you recommend it? Does it need to be removed to clean the PA frequently?

@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j 

It's just one little hole almost imperceptible. Security is 100 percent. It is important to me because I am often absent for work. It's important for me to know that he can't masturbate and that he can't have an erection when I don't want to. This greatly improves his behavior.
His piss is different. He with the PA lock pee in the spray and must to sit down and always have to wash his penis after peeing. The cage is therefore better than the closed-type tube. He always carries a plastic botle when he goes out, which he needs to washing his penis.

Many men who have PA wear a permanent non-slip ring. My husband only wore the PA ring until the PA was completely healed. Without a ring during healing, a new hole would have closed. After healing, I took off his ring. He now wears a CB with a PA lock. I take off his PA lock and CB once a week.

@penelopa

How often do you allow him to ejaculate? Over the last 2 years, have you done much experimentation to see what works with his body? As you've presumably read, Kevin and I have settled on the weekly release and that seems to keep him motivated enough but give him rewards frequent enough that he doesn't get depressed or sad like we noticed with the longer lockup periods. 

During your weekly unlocks, do you perform the cleaning or does he do it himself - supervised?

When you leave for work trips, do you find that he is whiny and pestering? When I would travel, Kevin would get a bit annoying so we would typically extend his lockup a few days during each of those trips due to his annoyances. He admitted to watching porn while I was away and that got his hormones all worked up. I don't mind him looking at porn, it does a great bit of the required tease & denial that is so important during his lockup periods. He is only making it harder on himself!

I'm a little fascinated at how Rigid Chastity gets mentioned in topics that might not call for it being mentioned. The cynical part of me thinks it's really smart marketing.

I have a PA lock that is independent of the cage manufacturer. It's HIGHLY secure. The link to the locking ring is from a German manufacturer, not specific to chastity. They have all sorts of interesting items for sale.

https://www.traeume-aus-edelstahl.de/details.html;jsessionid=AEB01650CADE71587BEB2F98544F891A?_filterartnr=pa002&_random=-1341468290

One other lock we tried was from here. I liked it but tended to require a lot of maintenance lubrication to keep the lock working.

https://lustlock.com/padlocks-for-piercing/

OMG those look scary. I'll stick to our pretty brightly colored plastic one.  Haha. Thanks @patches

@patches

https://www.dhgate.com/product/steel-d-ring-pa-lock-5mm-glans-piercing-male/396984461.html

@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

I like your site, the forum. The beauty of FLR is that any woman can change a man according to her needs. He ejaculates once a month (Every four weeks). We started with one week. After ejaculation, he becomes lazy and thinks about other women, and lose energy. This condition in him, lasts 3 to 4 days. It freaked me out. 

Then we found a solution. When he has a ruined orgasm (ejaculation without orgasm), he is not lazy afterwards, doesn't think about other women and has energy. Three months in a row (12 week), he has a ruined orgasm and every fourth month  he has a full orgasm. After a full orgasm I ejaculate him four to 5 times. We call this a complete discharge. The last ejaculation is when he ejaculates only one drop.

The weekly unlock is for cleaning. (I do it), for teasing, intercourse...I don't like porn and he doesn't have permission to watch. The only nvagina he can see is mine. Cunnilingus is daily, often several times a day. When I'm on a business trip, I talk to him through Skype. Then I usually masturbate. It is the only possible teasing for him and has a positive effect on him.

@penelopa

The 3-4 day condition that you notice is the place that most men live ALL OF THE TIME. Thus many relationships are not successful because the woman's needs are never fully met. He is always chasing his next release and all conversations are rooted in sex bartering whether he knows it or not! The truth is, most men want the same things we do but their hormones overpower their abilities to seek and maintain those sorts of positive relationships. Keeping destructive hormones under control is essential for living your best lives together! That's what it is all about, right?

@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

Yes. All girls, and women, have known since puberty that men work hard around them until they have sex. After sex, many lose interest and chase another woman or girl.

This is more or less pronounced in all men. Ruined orgasm nullifies this masculine trait. I highly recommend ruined orgasm for all FLR couples.

When couple start FLR lifestyle and chastity belt there are two stages.
1. He is constantly complaining and waiting for realization. This is the adjustment phase. The man still thinks and wants to everything wrapped around his penis. This phase is equally difficult for both husband and wife but in different ways. This phase lasts about a year. Over time, it gets milder and goes into phase two.
2. The husband begins to think only of his wife's pleasure. This phase is great for both husband and wife and allows the FLR relationship to evolve in the right direction.

@penelopa

I've noticed the exact same thing although I broke phase 1 down into a few more steps. The funny thing is that it almost exactly mirrors the stages of grieving! The final stage being accepting.  Great feedback.  You know, I think I was late to the game because I really didn't notice how hard men work until they have sex. Perhaps realizing/learning it later is what led me to really analyze how I can use this to my benefit rather than just accepting it as many do. Either way, it is truly the path to an enlightened, happy life!

@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j

My husband and I started a new phase last night, at FLM. Sissification, that is preparation for cuckolding.  I love him and I want us both to enjoy cuckolding and life beyond cuckolding.  I've been thinking for a long time, I know it's going to be difficult. He cried like rain during the weekend. I am there to support him in his transformation that is necessary.

@penelopa

What made him cry? Kevin and I have been talking about cuckolding lately and wondering if it is a direction that we want to eventually take. From our perspective, this may be something that we want to do together and something that he wants to experience with me. I suppose that our relationship isn't typical but we are doing these things together and cuckolding may be something that we choose to do. Or maybe not.

If he is crying, are you certain that this is a direction that you both feel comfortable with? Does sissification make you more aroused? Does it make him feel more aroused? That is a fetish that I don't personally understand. 

Whatever you do next, you know that we want to hear all about it!