Cuckolding/sex with outside partners: Can it go too far?

If Karin has total control over her sexual lifestyle. I don’t know what going to far means. It would be up to her judgment of what’s too far for her. She had no idea what the night was going to be. She was trying to included you in the experience by sending you pictures of her night. What deep down feeling made you unsettled?

I can’t imagine it going too far, this whole thing was my idea and I know without question that my wife loves me.

Karin, Joanne and I talked a lot that night, and it was a productive, enlightening discussion. Karin enjoyed the night immensely and I’m genuinely happy for Her. Overjoyed, even, and our relationship is as strong as ever if not stronger as a result of both Her night of pleasure and the discussion that followed it.

I was mostly shocked when I realized what was going to happen, and that was overwhelming at first. I fear that I might have said or done something to spoil Her evening if I had been there.

I would have preferred to have been able to help with Joanne’s planning the night for Karin. Helping Joanne set things up would have made me feel I was more a part of this special event. But I realize now that was just me being selfish.

Joanne spent a lot of time and effort planning this night for Karin and didn’t want the big surprise to be spoiled, so Joanne didn’t tell anyone. Not her other friends, not me, not even her own boyfriend.

Joanne said she originally planned only to watch and take pictures, for the night to be all about Karin’s pleasure. Taking part after Karin had Her fun was Joanne's “in-the-moment” decision.

Unfortunately, Joanne’s boyfriend didn’t take things so well and they are no longer together.

I think that is a hot arrangement. There is no one way, the only ones who know for sure if the dynamic works is those individuals and the couple, as long as everyone is open, honest, and each communicates what they want and need you should be good, No one should be forced to do anything they are uncomfortable with even if the fantasy plays like that. Key is emotional intelligence, trust, and safety for all

Joanne knew this was a fantasy that Karin has had for years, so Joanne helped Her to live out that fantasy. It took her several weeks to put it all together. IMO that makes Joanne a great friend.

After the three of us talked at length, I realized Karin's activity that night was really nothing that She hadn't done before. The same holds true for Joanne and her now-ex-boyfriend. The four of us had played together several times, and Joanne had been with other men, both with and without him there to watch.

So Karin and I are in a good place - maybe even better than before, but I feel bad for Joanne. Her ex said some really hurtful things when he ended their relationship that night. I've seen the texts he sent and I doubt there will ever be a reconciliation.

لقد وصلت علاقتكما لمستوى رائع من تفهم احتياجات الطرف الاخر.

تحياتي لك و لزوجتك

Translation:

Your relationship has reached a great level of understanding each other's needs.

My greetings to you and your wife