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Hello! I just wanted to post and ask, how do you get started? Me and my partner have been talking about it for a long time, we have actually took the dive and she did sleep with a married couple one time but that about it. Since then we are just both nervous for some reason, we did enjoy it the first experience but since then we just haven't done it again. Every time we have sex we tease about the idea, we even speak to a guy we met online about doing it, he is down to do it but I get nervous for some reason and call it off. My partner is down to do it with him but I guess its just me for the most part. Any tips? I do want it to happen, her having fuck buddy or bull or what ever you want to term it, I just can't get passed the nervous feelings, thanks.
Posted : 12/12/2024 8:38 am
nevertoolate reacted
To me, that nervousness means you aren't ready. If you were ready you wouldn't shy away when things began to get closer to a reality. Here are a few questions for the two of you to discuss next time the topic comes up.
- What are your motivations and expectations? What does success in this dynamic look like for you?Â
- How do you envision setting boundaries and maintaining trust?
- Would a progression of safety make sense to slowly work your way to it or stop at any point?
Begin with making out, if that works, set up a second date to try oral sex and if that works go further. - Who wants this more strongly? Is he pushing for it? Is she pushing for it?
Posted : 12/12/2024 11:57 am
