Male Chastity: The Joys of Teasing Him

I've never been an overly extroverted person, in fact I really have to make an effort to be outgoing in social situations. Relationships are much of the same. When Kevin and I first started dating, I made a bit more of an effort. I dressed up for him, I was a bit more flirty in public and in private. I hate to say that I take him for granted now but I know he will be there and the extra effort to be outgoing isn't quite as strong. Another thing I noticed with being flirty and outgoing is the pressure to have sex. If I am being extra flirty, maybe it is just that - maybe I am just being flirty because that is what I feel like doing at that very moment. Even when it comes to the bedroom, if I dress in something sexy maybe it is because I want the attention on my body not because I want to get him all riled up and ready for sex. Use teasing as a way to start getting rid of your sex calendar and focus on enjoying sex, not rationing it.

In recent months, a simple cheap Chinese plastic cage has allowed me to get back into some of the sexy play that I really enjoy. He knows that he must earn his way out of it and he knows that I am in control no matter how things play out. I've really started to enjoy dressing up in sexy clothes, teasing him. For example last week I lit some candles in the bedroom, invited him up to find me in a gorgeous teddy that I got from Fredrick's of Hollywood about five years ago. I thoroughly enjoyed doing a sexy striptease and grinding up against him with absolutely zero expectations afterwards. He commented that it felt like a strip club since we was locked and couldn't have me, all he felt was pressure from his cage and arousal. Sexy stripteases like this rarely end with sex for us. It usually ends with me getting a fantastic, mind-blowing massage as his sexual energy is redirected back to me. His attention makes me feel so sexy and does way more for me than a few minutes of pelvic thrusting.

I've mentioned in previous blogs that I do have a healthy sexual appetite and we have sex a few times a week but he typically isn't allowed to have an orgasm when we have sex. I do sometimes allow him to masturbate after sex but I do so enjoy the look on his face when we lock him back up without allowing those balls to empty. He sometimes gets frustrated or tries bargaining with me so I entertained his deal one day. "If you let me cum now, you can lock me up for ten days" he said. I laughed and said make that 30 and you've got a deal. He came back and said two weeks. I laughed and accepted his two week deal. He was really regretting that decision towards the end of the two weeks and I didn't let him out a minute early.

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