Male orgasm denial has many benefits that we've covered on this blog, the male and female orgasms are very different. The female orgasm is designed to promote closeness and pair bonding while the male orgasm is intended to push the man along to the next mating opportunity. The female orgasm gives you those magical feelings which range anywhere from pure lust to deep love. Getting started can be a challenge because it is an enormous change to your sex life but here are some ideas to kick things off.
No-Nut Night is just that, a night when sex ends without an orgasm for him. This helps build the bond of intimacy without the hormonal release associated with his orgasm. My blog has a tremendous information about orgasm denial and the positive impact on relationships. My boyfriend, Kev and I typically go for the 7 day lockup schedule but we will often go for a second week to keep him on his toes. For the sake of this blog, I'll assume that you are new to orgasm denial and just trying to introduce it to your relationship. Starting slow is a great way to get your toes wet, here are some ideas.
This one can be fun especially if he is locked in a cock cage but it isn't necessary if you both have plenty of willpower. You can cuddle in bed, he can lay on your stomach but my favorite is doggy style. You lay on the bed and tell him how much you want him to fuck you, dirty talk is an enormous plus since it gets his hormones flowing and increases his heart rate. Wiggle your bum and perhaps spread your lips showing him how wet you are for him. If he is wearing a cage, he may even try to push up against you but it is an exercise in futility. The cage will provide a certain level of discomfort when he is aroused. The more verbal you are and the more you tease, the more fun you can have.
This is like a bedroom version of red light green light. You can only say two words, stop and go. When you say go, he is to enter you and slide in and out of you. You think of a number in your head and that is the number of thrusts you allow before saying stop. This can go on an on for a while until you've had your fill of teasing him and decide
Docking and talking is just how it sounds, he puts his erect penis inside you and the two of you talk until he gets flaccid and slides out of you. No thrusting, just focus on deepening your connection together. I wrote at length about the dock and talk approach in a previous blog.
This again would work much better with a cage but it isn't necessary. If you are not using a cage, have him sit on his hands to prevent any inadvertent touching. He should be seated at least ten feet from you and you should spread your legs and play with yourself. You can whisper about how badly you want him, this will work wonders. Play with yourself using a vibrator or dildo and bring yourself to orgasm. Eye contact is wonderful as he watches you enjoy blissful orgasm (or two) and he attempts to maintain his composure.…
