How can I be a good husband to my wife?

The fact that you are even asking how you can be a better husband speaks volumes. In this blog you will find conventional wisdom supplemented some unconventional ways to be a better partner. Being the best husband is ultimately about waking up every morning and making a conscious decision to be a wonderful partner. The simple and continual desire to be better will almost guarantee your success. If you've been around the site a while, you know that most of my blogs are written to a woman who is trying to help her husband. This blog is different than most and is for husbands who want to be a better partner. Let's start by asking why. What about her makes you strive to do better; to be better? So let's get on to your question.

The fact that you are even trying shows that you have the desire to be a good husband. You have the desire to be a better partner. Let's talk about what most men want from a marriage. A best friend, an emotional safe space, respect, support, encouragement, vulnerability and physical intimacy. Guess what fellas, we want the exact same things! We mix the order up a bit and there is an interesting outlier in the list; respect. Not the Aretha Franklin song but feelings that your wife respects you. You earn her respect when you consistently consider and value her feelings. When you make time for her, introduce her to others, never hide things from her and you take care of yourself physically. The needs of men and women aren't that different really. There are many ways that we differ but

Where do we differ?

Men are problem solvers by nature and women often just want to be heard. Helping us solve our problems can actually seem unsupportive.

Courtship is that thing you did when you were getting to know her. You took her out to dinner, you held the door for her. She was the object of your affection and the center of your attention. During that time you would actively try to impress her with your jokes, conversational banter and skills.

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