There. I said it. Unleash the flood gates of hate mail. I'll start with the preface that nothing is inherently bad or good but cuckolding is a fetish that is hard wired into many of us. Many of us; men in particular find a sort of emotional high from cuckolding that can be traced back to psychological trauma and use fetishization and sexualization to turn the psychological frown of infidelity upside down. I'm not one to speak to how healthy it might be to romanticize past traumas but be self aware and realize if this fetish may be doing more harm than good.
I'll use husband and wife for the blog but please know that the roles can be flip-flopped and cuckolding is just as common in the LBGTQ community. Despite my pronouns, this applies to you too!
In so many couples, the man researches cuckolding and watches cuckold porn for years desensitizing him to the idea. He then throws the idea out to his wife and expects her to jump onboard with the idea. She on the other hand is confused. What am I doing wrong that I can't satisfy his needs? Why would he want to see someone have sex with me?
Many men make cuckolding purely about the pang of jealousy and rush of endorphins that they receive when they watch another man with their wife. He wants to experience this high at the expense of the relationship and the wife's wants and needs. A true cuckold relationship is a construct where the woman's sexual needs are first and the man's needs are secondary. She is truly empowered and not used as a tool for the man's erotic fantasy. In the fantasy, the man gives another man permission to fuck his wife. This is not only objectifying the woman but whoring her out. No wonder she doesn't like the idea! Women are often eager to please their husband and will agree to something that will make her resentful and sabotage the relationship.
Cuckolding is a long list of fetishes and while fetishes can be great for a couple to enjoy together, they are something that should be enjoyed together with plenty of communication and discussion. If cuckolding is a checkbox on your list of sexy things to try, be aware that you should take it seriously. Cuckolding will unquestionably give her feelings of guilt and confusion. It will undoubtedly give him feelings of jealousy, confusion and perhaps anger. In the perfect world the couple will experience pure joy and compersion but that rarely happens the first time. Cuckolding can become a spectacle and may lead to other things such as male chastity, pegging, crossdressing etc. Realize that none of these things are related to cuckolding. If the two of you decide to experience cuckolding or any of these other things together, approach them all separately. Have a conversation about what you hope to get from it, potential pitfalls and an exit strategy or safe word to end things abruptly if they cause unpleasant feelings. …
