The cuckold topic is loaded with mystery, excitement, and sometimes misconceptions. In all honesty, the term “cuckolding” itself often conjures up wild male fantasies: the idea of a dominant woman sleeping with other men while her husband watches or participates in some way, often with an element of erotic humiliation. But, as someone who's living it, I can tell you firsthand—there’s a big difference between the male fantasy of cuckolding and the reality of living in a cuckold relationship.
The male fantasy version of cuckolding is about immediate gratification and about these outlandish things where the woman is tying the man up and screwing the pool boy while the husband is crying in the corner. In this fantasy world, the wife or partner has multiple lovers, while the husband sits on the sidelines, often in chastity or a submissive role. This scenario is full of raw, erotic power play, but like many fantasies, it’s often missing some very real human elements like trust, vulnerability, and communication.
In reality, cuckolding—at least in the way Kev and I experience it—is so much deeper. It’s a dance of emotions, vulnerability, and connection that goes way beyond the physical. Don’t get me wrong—there’s plenty of fun and excitement, but it’s the emotional element that sets it apart from what I believe many men imagine.
In our relationship, cuckolding has been a journey, an evolution if you will. I didn’t just wake up one day and say, “Okay Kev, I’m going to sleep with other people, and you’re going to watch!” It started much earlier, from understanding that power is one of the things I crave most about sex.
Kev and I had already been exploring female dominance and male submission in our relationship. We started with male chastity and orgasm denial—Kev’s orgasms were under my control, and let me tell you, orgasm control is hot. There’s something really powerful about having a level of control that reaches in and out of the bedroom. Over time, we added pegging to the dynamic, where I took on the intimacy that is role reversal. What an incredibly sexy way to revisit the sexual roles in our relationship. That little switch of roles? It shifted a lot more than just who was physically in control for that night. It played with our power dynamic, our sense of intimacy, and even our self-perception.
But eventually, we wanted to explore more. And let’s be clear, it wasn’t just about chasing the next big thrill or dopamine hit (though that certainly plays a part). No, we were also seeking to push our emotional boundaries and connect on a level that regular, vanilla sex just couldn’t provide. That’s where cuckolding came in.…
