The human body is a masterpiece, a canvas of arousal, connection, and intrigue. Whether you’re squarely aligned with your Kinsey number or a bit of a slider, exploring how sexual fluidity and attraction works can unlock a world of new experiences. Today, we’re diving into the juicy world of arousal training, specifically the fascinating journey of conditioning my husband Kev’s responsiveness to male bodies.
This might seem like a wild leap for some, but our experiments are rooted in understanding and curiosity. Sexual fluidity isn’t just a buzzword; it’s an inherent aspect of many people’s desires. Research, including Lisa Diamond’s work, shows that arousal can be flexible, adapting based on circumstances and emotional contexts.
Apparently I am smack dab in the middle of the Kinsey Scale.
Sexual fluidity refers to "situation-dependent flexibility" in sexual arousal. Historically, this concept has been more widely studied in women, but men are not exempt. Diamond’s research on fluidity highlights how specific stimuli can shift desires without altering core orientation. For Kev, this journey started with asking a simple question: If I find certain visuals and contexts arousing, could he?
Studies suggest that conditioning can play a role in altering arousal patterns. For example, repeated exposure to certain stimuli, combined with sexual release, can rewire the brain to associate those stimuli with pleasure. Think of it like Pavlov’s bell, but way more fun and consensual.
It began innocently: Kev and I pondered why visuals of a ready male partner triggered intense arousal for me but didn’t do the same for him. We realized Kev wasn’t entirely rigid in his preferences—he leaned middle-left on the Kinsey scale but wasn’t opposed to exploration. With Erik, our boyfriend, in the picture, the dynamic opened up further opportunities.…
