Hi everyone, first post of 2019! I had a request to write about one of the times that I shared my favorite relationship secret with one of my friends. For the sake of this story, let's call her... Lucy. So Lucy and I were talking and she was going on about how her husband was boring in bed, she was losing the spark, he was lazy around the house and with the kids, you know the drill. I was starting to grow weary of her complaints about a man who is probably perfectly capable of being her ideal husband so I decided it was a good time to tell her. I started with the sentence "I've got an idea that might help but you'll need to be open minded...". After I said it, I realized that it was probably not the right way to start the conversation since she looked at me as if I was going to suggest a threesome or sell her Amway or something equally horrible.
I did have her full attention and took a breath and said ok... So you know how a man is basically controlled by his penis?
Lucy cut me off and said I know all he wants to do is have sex even though our relationship isn't even good right now.
I tried again and said, yeah exactly. So not to side with him or anything but that isn't really his fault, his hormones are telling him that sex needs to happen in order for things to be good again. In order to bring a level of normalcy back to your relationship, sex has to be there.
Rather annoyed, she said ok so you want me to have sex with him and everything goes back to normal for him?
Quite the contrary I said. Her eyes squinted a bit and you could see the confusion on her face. She went from mildly annoyed to very interested in about two seconds. …
