Sex is an incredible way to enhance the connection between two people but what happens when sex becomes boring or even mundane? Sex turns up the magic between two people and allows them to connect on an entirely different level. That magic dwindles over time and becomes less a spark of magic and more a flickering flame of a candle that is struggling to stay lit. Both of us want sex but clearly; it is about physical release and rarely about boosting our relationship.
Do you find yourself (both genders) preferring masturbation to sex? This is very common for several reasons but often times it is the path of least resistance to get your needs met. Rejected sexual advances can be a source of disappointment and resentment. Sexual dysfunction can be a very challenging source of frustration and discouragement. Taking matters into your own hands can allow you get the job done quickly while greatly reducing the chances of failure.
While neither of you entered into the relationship purely for sex, neither of you entered the relationship for a sexless relationship although man relationships go that direction. A quick visit to Reddit's /r/deadbedrooms will give you a glimpse into the bedrooms of others who have dried up. Learning from the mistakes of others is a wonderful way to learn what you can do to prevent rejection and frustration from euthanizing your bedroom activities.
Communication and connection cannot exist in the relationship when one partner's needs are not being met. If he is talking about his hobbies, plans, or problems it is near impossible to show genuine empathy when your partner is not meeting your needs. Your mind can twist reality to make you believe that your partner is deliberately holding out on you; which does nothing but compound the feelings of resentment.
It should be acknowledged that sex is a need, not a want. We need food, water, sleep and sex. We are wired that way and by the terms of most relationships you are your partner's sole sexual supply. If you are his/her sexual supply then you are also the source of a deficit in that supply. That last sentence will raise some eyebrows and I want to make it clear that nobody owes anyone sex. In nearly every case, sexual obligation is the biggest possible turn-off. If you want your bedroom to go the way of the dodo, make your partner feel like he or she owes you sex. You will be the first to experience a sexual void like you've never experienced.
Deficiency in any part of your life can be a self perpetuation cycle which will turn every mountain into a molehill. Consider a couple with communication challenges. She may not want to communicate openly with him. He may feel uncomfortable communicating with her. As time goes on, the snubs of communication grow more and more significant until communication is exhausting and hardly worth the effort. Sexual dysfunction can be a self perpetuating cycle just like communication. If one partner feels like sex is a point of contention, the other will feel it in due time. …
