Female Led Partnership: Does it work?

We've been trying a mixed bag of things in our relationship and I've been diligently documenting things for you all to enjoy. Some things have worked and others haven't worked as well. Some things are more around the fetish side of things and others are essential to maintaining your feminine power in the relationship. Aside from keeping the balance in your favor, it is important to keep your relationship feeling new and exciting so those feelings of newness never go away.

Let me start with what hasn't worked for us. Negative reinforcement seems to be something that hasn't given us many positive results. That's not to say that he shouldn't receive punishment when things don't go by the plan. Negative reinforcement tends to create a rift between us that can take a while to repair. I also find it difficult to take it seriously when spanking him but that's just me. I do flip back into some negative reinforcement things from time to time but I usually just do it to be kinky.

Now let's get on to what does work. Positive reinforcement has worked wonders. When I give him a reward, I explain what elements contributed to him receiving that reward. That reward could be an orgasm, cuddling, a blowjob any number of things that I know bring him pleasure. If he doesn't make the right decisions, I let him know that those things won't be happening and I try to be as specific as possible so there is never a guessing game.

You might be asking about chastity devices since that wasn't in either the positive or negative section. Well, I think the better question is around orgasm control. I feel like the chastity cage is a fantastic way to solve two major problems. The first is his masturbation and release habit. Most men have been masturbating and ejaculating on a daily basis for years before they come into your life. Breaking that habit will take some time and it usually isn't fair to ask them to do it on their own. I think it is also fair to say that your man has ejaculated at the end of nearly every sexual encounter that he has ever had. His body will be confused when release doesn't happen after having sex. The cage is a fantastic tool to enable his body to get accustomed to this change in his sexual arousal cycle.

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