This article was written by a guest contributor named MagicalMolly after seeing my ping pong blog. She said that she had a story to tell me that might help me sort things out. After emailing back and forth for a few days, I was able to shove it all together for your reading pleasure. Yet another guest contribution, I may not ever have to write anything again (kidding). Enjoy and make sure you let Molly know what you thought! Thanks Molly!
My marriage had a big gaping home where passion used to be. Passion for me is a wonderful and essential part of a happy marriage. After twelve years and two wonderful children, the passion was mostly gone. Don't get me wrong, my husband is an incredible father to our children and a wonderful husband to me. He buys me flowers, he surprises me with regular dates and he is everything that I ever wanted from a husband. He is the picture of marital perfection. Further, he is passionate and we have a wonderful sex life but something is missing.
Feeling bored and mundane in a relationship is normal and certainly not a sign that your partner isn't right for you. Love is a wonderful emotion and it has the potential to build amazing bonds and tear other bonds apart. Most married women will either have an affair or simply deal with the passionless marriage as the normal result of a twelve year relationship. Biologically it is nearly impossible to keep the same feelings present all the way through a twelve or twenty year relationship.
Emotions change, we grow together and we grow apart. Then we grow back together once again. As our lives become intertwined in the most complicated of ways, we transition from lustful lovers to life partners. Love has a series of ups and downs and the absolute pinnacle of those ups and downs is to find someone who you want to spend your life with. I am convinced that with my husband, I have absolutely won the game of life.
So what about the passion, is that simply destined to go away? When we find love, marriage and a life partner does that need to be at the expense of passion? I don't think so!
My marriage is wonderful, my husband is amazing. Nothing is lacking aside from that fire of feeling alive. I would never cheat on my husband, I would never hurt him in such a way. My husband is my everything and hurting him would cause an agonizing emotional toll on me as well.…
