On this website I spend quite a bit of time discussing differences between women and men. Along the way, some have accused me of being a female supremacist. Do I feel like women are superior? Do I feel like males are inferior and placed on this earth to serve women?
I feel like women and men are different and understanding our humanity is embracing the gifts and differences that we were given.
I don't think there is any disputing that Women are the weaker sex. Women are just over half as strong as men in their upper bodies, and about two-thirds as strong in their lower bodies. That difference is quite significant. The male metabolism burns calories faster and the female metabolism converts more food to fat. Men's bodies are covered in more hair than women's bodies. Voices are quite different with women having higher pitched voices and men having deeper voices. Then we get to the whole penis, vagina, breasts situation. These differences will come as a surprise to very few of you and we generally accept these differences as fact. So what else is different?
Hormones make males and females different on a chemical level despite the fact that we have the exact same hormones in our bodies. Both males and females have estrogen, progesterone and testosterone but levels and concentrations are different depending on gender. These hormones also are used by the male and female bodies in different ways. Hormones also control our basic urges like sex drive, desire to pick fights and the desire to spend time caring for young. Hormones also seem to control gene expression in the brain. This is how gender reassignment through hormone replacement therapy effectively changes the hormonal balance and effectively reverses these gender traits even if the bits and pieces contradict the assigned gender.
The point I am trying to make is that we are all different. Men are stronger, women are weaker. Is that fair? No, probably not. The fact that the male metabolism burns calories faster is absolutely not fair! So treating us like we are equals doesn't make sense. We aren't equal. We are different and we are different in beautiful ways. Should we get equal pay and equal rights? Of course, that's not what we are talking about here. What I am proposing is that our definition of relationships should evolve. A man is always going to have sex hormones that overpower his thoughts and cloud his judgement while the woman will typically be more pragmatic.
When a woman practices orgasm control for her partner, she is acknowledging that there are differences between them and embracing those differences. She is accepting her strengths and his weaknesses to create a stronger bond between the pair. Orgasms are essential in pair bonding women and men and harnessing that energy is something that cultures have done for thousands of years. From Chinese Taoists to India's Tantra; orgasm control has shaped cultures around the world. I propose that western culture's insistence in treating genders as equals in all things is flawed. …
