I've learned many things over the last year but one of the most interesting is the tie between an emotional and a physical relationship. Why is casual sex while in a relationship so frowned upon? I am not saying that I want to go out and do bunches and bunches of casual sexing but I like to talk about things.
- Pregnancy/STD
- Hurt feelings
- What others think
- Threat to the relationship
When we hear about someone cheating, it is framed in such a way that we are led to believe that they are a bad person or did it to hurt their partner. This is rarely the reason although some partners use infidelity as revenge or tit for tat. I personally don't see the purpose in this and would highly recommend communication as a better way of handling relationship problems.
Men and women cheat for largely the same reasons although the order is often different.
- Low Self Esteem
- Emotionally Starved
- Using Infidelity as Revenge
- Crave Excitement
- Sexually Deprived
First let's look at the differences between casual sex and relationship sex. Sex is intimate when you are doing it with someone that you've got feelings for. When you don't have a deep connection, sex can be hot and exciting but it is more about the physical attraction and lust. Having sex with a hookup is almost always awkward with awkward silences and awkward touching as you try and guess what the other person likes and dislikes. You are always on edge that one or both of you might get emotionally attached. It may seem like I am trying to talk you out of it but I'm not. Casual hookups are awesome! The passion and spontaneity are hotter than hot and it makes you feel attractive and alive. It validates that you are beautiful and this other person knows it too.…
