It is no secret that about 80% of male chastity is initiated by the male and in this blog I provide context and encourage men to communicate about the pros and cons of embracing this kink/lifestyle. Sometimes the conversation goes very well and sometimes the conversation goes poorly. Below is an example of a conversation that went poorly and the wife in the email excerpt below is not to be faulted for her reluctance to accept the kink that her husband approached her with. Some men feel like their wives owe it to them to participate in new kinks such as chastity, pegging or other female domination fetishes. Newsflash, your wife owes you absolutely nothing sexually.
This email came from a reader, her name has been changed, links have been added and some personal details omitted but otherwise very similar to the email that she sent. She did provide permission for this email to be published, of course. Her email is respectful, and I really feel for what this couple must be going through together.
I think both J and her husband have the best intentions but don't quite know how to navigate this. Their communication about sex leaves something to be desired. I wanted to post this as a blog because all too often men think that relationship challenges are their fault and problems for them to solve on their own. You cannot create happiness by yourself, it just doesn't work that way.
Please talk about problems and work on solutions together. Don't try to figure it out on your own. Your relationship is a two way street and coming up with a own one-sided solution is a recipe for resentment. If you don't communicate, she may not even know there is a problem that needs solving.
