All men are not alike just as all women are not alike. Many women find a dominant male attractive, let's unpack the reasons. We are all wired to appreciate dominance. As a woman, we are wired to look for trust and we can fully trust a partner that makes you feel like your needs will be cared for. Nothing is a bigger turn off than a guy who is untrustworthy. This carries many forms, this could be someone who is manipulative, passive aggressive or generally threatens our ability to feel cared for. As male and female gender roles blend and parenting roles cross gender boundaries men find support and dominance attractive in their mates.
Couples with one dominant partner are happier and produce more children according to a recent study. According to the study, women were in charge in 24.2 percent of cases and the premise of the study challenges the frequently held belief that equality within a partnership is a trademark of functional relationship.
Your man may not be the bread winner or even the head of the household but he still has an innate need to feel desired in no uncertain terms. The same needs that you have in terms of reassurance of your role in his life, the same dominance and security that makes you want to rip your panties off and run to him. Men are wired to be respected, the leader and protector of the relationship but when gender roles change this role can be much less obvious in the relationship.
In previous generations, sex was an expectation and men received sex when they requested it. That's just how it was. Women provided for their man physically and men provided for their women emotionally. Power dynamics are shifting and so is the sexual power dynamic. This means that physical satisfaction isn't always at the man's beck and call. In fact, most relationships the woman is the gate keeper of sex. The man may try and initiate sex and the woman may turn him down. It is unlikely however that the woman would be turned down when she initiates sex. This is fine and dandy but it is clear in most relationships that there is a sexual imbalance in favor of the woman. Being denied sexual satisfaction in a relationship creates a level of humiliation and frustration for even the most secure of men.
Men accept this sexual imbalance as the way things are but they also subconsciously know that the woman wants to be in control of sexuality in the relationship. He knows that she wants to be in control because she has made it very clear that she wants to be in control. Consciously, he doesn't want to have sex with someone that doesn't desire him. Subconsciously he starts to sexualize the power dynamic and her control in the relationship. His desire turns to affirmation of her sexual control and he sexualizes it into a fetish. Her waning or uncertain desire becomes the object of his affection.
Many men get into habits of daily masturbation, satisfying their sexual needs as a chore almost like brushing their teeth. This isn't usually the same with women. When men masturbate they don't perform as well as they would without taking matters into their own hands. This means that there is rarely a day where they haven't pleasured themselves when their partner asks for sex. The man instantly blames any sexual performance issues on his self-pleasure and creates masturbation as a shameful act. This is of course reinforced by any relationship stigma that you may place on masturbation and any societal or religious stigma that they may already associate with the act.…
