Dear Husband,
I need to have a difficult conversation with you, one that comes from a place of understanding, respect, and love. It’s not easy for me to express, because I know it might sting. But I believe that we both deserve honesty, and the truth is, my desire for you has shifted.
Let me be clear: it doesn’t mean that I don’t love you. It doesn’t mean that I don’t appreciate you. It doesn’t even mean that I don't find you attractive in certain moments. What it means is that my sexual energy and desire have become more complex. And that’s not something I expect you to understand overnight, but I want to explain it as best as I can.
The reality is that, as women, our sexual needs and desires evolve with time. The female mind, particularly the sexual mind, doesn’t operate on the same static, linear scale that many men’s desires do. What happens is a combination of emotional, psychological, and hormonal factors that play into our sexual experiences. Over time, many women, especially those in long-term committed relationships, experience something that I think needs a more honest name: sexual stagnation.
Sexual variety, my love, is essential for most women’s continued sexual vitality. As comfortable as routine can be in other aspects of our lives, when it comes to sex, familiarity can breed complacency. It can become dull, routine, and, quite frankly, uninspiring. I think we can both acknowledge that sex can easily feel like a repetitive act that doesn't spark joy or excitement after years of doing the same thing over and over again.
Women often get to a place where they feel a lack of sexual energy, not because they don’t desire their partners, but because they no longer feel challenged or intrigued by the same old dynamic. This is part of the reason why many women, myself included, may experience a lull in sexual desire after a long period of time in a committed relationship. We crave something different. Something new. Something that reignites the fire and reminds us that we are vibrant, sexual beings.…
