This isn't going to be an article about the twisted underworld of chastity, this is about feelings. This is about ensuring that the feelings that you are hoping to enforce with chastity are the ones that you get. If done improperly, chastity can bring feelings of resentment, distrust and anger when that is the opposite reason that you brought it into your life. Chastity is a huge mind fuck and is capable of bringing up some pretty intense emotions but my intent is to help you get positive a outcome when you put the ol' hubby on lockdown.
I've received a couple emails from couples where it simply wasn't working. The only results the woman is seeing is an angry, upset man who doesn't want to play this game anymore. Chores are begrudgingly completed, massages happen but he is clearly unhappy and neither of them is seeing the result that she expected. Things just aren't working. So what went wrong?
When done properly, woman cages man, man whines, woman teases, man whines more, woman teases man, man cries and begs to have his cage removed, woman determines that the man's had enough and allows him a release. Rinse, repeat for as long as you both want chastity to continue. Time doesn't really matter as long as the teasing is frequent and merciless. The frustration that he feels is intense, so intense that he actually gets a euphoric high from the frustration and desperate lack of control. That high is turned around and focused on you which makes the game oh so much fun to play. You feel confident, powerful and are truly in control. That is how things are supposed to work.
All too often, the woman thinks that the cage is the magic here but it isn't! The magic is you. The cage simply forces him to redirect his sexual energy toward you instead of allowing it to escape the tip of his weenie when he jerks off. If you want to ruin the experience for both of you, lock him up and leave him. This gives him time to stew and to regret this little game. The secret is constant and frequent teasing to keep his focus directed at you and to keep him constantly yearning to please you with massages, oral sex and household tasks. Not only should you take advantage of his desire to please but you should expect and demand it as a condition of your role in his orgasm control.
Then make him do some of the chores that were taking up your time. Now you have time to tease him. You will be shocked at the amount of time a properly motivated man can find.
Check out my article on teasing, you can spend as little or as much time on teasing as you want. Only have 30 seconds a day? No problem. 5 minutes a day? No problem.…
