I received the following comment on one of the older blogs and I felt like it was worth publishing as a standalone blog because it provokes some interesting commentary and constructive dissent about this site; something that I love! I embrace any and all respectful opinions because - what good is this site if we can't all use it to learn together. I'd like to welcome a new user @jessie. While not new to chastity, he is new to this site and shares what I feel are some very useful experience and opinions.
No Jessie, thank you. I very much welcome the opinions and additional perspective that you've conveyed above. I agree with much of it, especially the fact that chastity doesn't stand on its own. Chastity is a tool to help couples who care deeply for each other and are willing to go to great lengths to repair what a relationship that they find valuable. You are absolutely correct that many men would scoff at the prospect of locking their manhood in a cage.
While I agree with most of what you said, I do want to highlight that male orgasm does in fact release hormones that are intended to reduce bonding. Our bodies truly are not designed for the monogamous pair bonding that our society holds dear and many parts of our anatomy are quite literally designed to create conflict. While we may be in a committed relationship, our hormones and neurotransmitters are at constant odds with the pair bonded bliss that we seek.
First, a quick primer on hormones and the roles they play.
- Lust = Testosterone & Estrogen
- Attraction = Norepinephrine, Serotonin & Dopamine
- Sleep/Satisfaction = Prolactin
- Attachment/Love = Oxytocin & Vasopressin
After orgasm, women experience a boost in both Oxytocin & Vasopressin which boost the bonding between two partners. In men, Prolactin is released during orgasm. Prolactin creates a feedback loop in men that decreases desire and creates a feeling of sexual satisfaction. The cure for blue balls. This is the cause of the sleepy post-sex feelings that make him roll away from you to support the male refractory period. …
