Hi Emma,
I have a question for you. I can't cum with my husband. When I first married him he had no trouble getting me off but we have been married ten years now and I don't really even want to have sex with him because I know I can't have an orgasm with him. He is a great guy and we are very close but it is almost embarrassing and dare I say pathetic that he doesn't get me off anymore.
I know its not me because I can get off by myself no problem. I feel so very resentful that he can't do what he used to do so easily in the past. Is it him or is it me, what is even going on. I want and deserve a good sex life but I feel like I am starving for good sex and I am so frustrated with him.
-Tara
Hi there Tara!
First off, let me say I understand your frustration—intimacy is such a cornerstone of a thriving relationship, and feeling disconnected in the bedroom can feel like losing a lifeline. What you’re experiencing is more common than you might think, and it has some fascinating psychological and biological underpinnings. So, let’s unpack this together with equal parts empathy and science.…
