As a bull, I’m writing to provide a periodic reminder that there are a few bad apples out there.  Hence, when selecting and playing with a bull, it is important to  maintain some basic, good practices – including obtaining referrals or “some” level of background check for a new bull, and for the wife to maintain her footing in the relationship. 

I have seen first-hand how some couples establish common-sense rules at the outset (condom usage, not seeing the same bull repeatedly to avoid attachment issues, etc), only to see those boundaries slowly fall by the waist side with the passage of time. 

This writing focuses on a particular bull of concern – the “intentional” homewrecker.   Regrettably, they exist. I need not elaborate upon the risks to a marriage that a cuckold lifestyle can pose.  From my view, a breakup often happens when the wife (i) loses total respect for the cuckold, and/or (ii) develops an emotional attachment to a particular bull.  If an intentional homewrecker enters the picture, it can be toxic. 

On one occasion I overhead a few such miscreants at a swingers club.  My mouth was ajar listening to them laugh as they eyed potential couples they would pair off with, while placing bets with each over “how long” it would take to achieve a breakup. 

The “formula” I learned was rather simple:  Step 1 – heavy degradation of the cuckold from the outset. The goal is to bring about the wife’s total loss of respect. If such humiliation is repeated in heavy and consistent doses over time, it can achieve that result.  If needed, Step 2 involves the domination of the wife, with the purpose of making her take a lead role in degrading the cuck. The bull urges her ownward to deeper acts of humiliation, repeatedly telling the wife she “deserves better” and that her relationship with the bull would only flourish with the cuck out of the picture.  If the wife falls into a type of “Stockholm syndrome,” the bull can demand a breakup as her ultimate act of her surrender and submission to the bull.    

One person who holds a degree in sexual psychology documented these real-life outcomes in her professional practice, noting how some bulls break up marriages for sheer sport: “There is a new and quite disturbing trend that has taken hold within the cukold community – professional bulls.  They are there to take over the marriage, to break these submissive husbands to their lowest common denominator and make the wives their bitches.  They keep score on how many marriages they ruin and talk about it as if it’s a badge of honor.”  thedrsuereview.com/professional-bulls-or-professional-bullshit     

To avoid these outcomes, it’s important not only to exercising careful judgment in selecting a bull, but for the wife to maintain the first line of defense for the FLR-cuckold dynamic.

A cuckold husband surrenders to the bull “for her” and “by her.”  It is an act of heightened submission to the wife’s authority over the husband.  He places himself in a vulnerable position, but his submission is bolstered with the reassuring comfort that it occurs under “her guidance” and “her protection.”   

The wife is the symphonic conductor of this tri-party orchestra.  In that role, she must have the disposition and the willpower to correct a bull, even terminate the bull’s relationship, if he oversteps “her” boundaries or usurps “her” authority.

The risks and dangers to the marriage arise when the wife passes the wand completely to the bull, allowing him to exercise authority and domination over both the wife and cuckold. Both partners then occupy a vulnerable position. In the hands of a malevolent bull, such authority is quickly abused.  Even if the bull is one or reputable character, remember the axiom: “absolute power corrupts absolutely”. 

So, use common sense when choosing the bull, and proceed with caution if you’re one of those couples who love the “thrill” of choosing a random, unknown stranger at seedy locations to serve as the bull.

And perhaps most important, enshrine from the outset and maintain this principle: in the new world order that is the female-led relationship, the FEMALE must lead.