My girlfriend has a guy friend. She admitted that she goes in the jacuzzi with him and he is naked (she claims that she keeps he bikini on). She also admitted that he gave her a nude massage. She goes over there frequently still. What should I do?
My girlfriend has a guy friend. She admitted that she goes in the jacuzzi with him and he is naked (she claims that she keeps he bikini on). She also admitted that he gave her a nude massage. She goes over there frequently still. What should I do?
Um, do you really have to ask? Do you really want to know? Do you love her enough to put up with that bullshit because they'll be sleeping together soon enough if not already.
I guess that is where I am stuck. I love her and I want to stay with her. It just gets confusing because she has made it clear that I am not allowed to even talk to another woman.
I want to propose to her. I just want to know if it would work,
We did agree about 6 months ago that she can hang out with other guys but I would not hang out or even be around other girls. I guess the guy friend thing is what is holding me back from proposing. Should I just accept it and propose if i love her?
Should you propose? .... Do you have a problem?
Well here's a simple way to figure it out if you have a problem with her hanging out naked with someone and your not even allowed to hang out with girls..... If you have a standard that you must uphold yet she doesn't.... Then one way or another you have a problem and she needs to address that problem before you propose
Maybe she has a idea of how to compensate for this situation maybe she can let this person go and not do this again there is a lot of maybe but that is up to you risk vs benefits your the only one who can decide
Quite some women do not say or ask the things directly and cleary what they want, want to try or dare to say what happened really. Also quite some women test men to see what their reaction will be. Your reaction will also depend from what you want. You being here on this website about FLR and cuckolding suggests that you are interested in these things. So what do you want? If you do not want her to cuckold you, you should say to her that you do not like/want her to have that kind of things with her "guy-friend". It is not because you will tell her that that she won't do that anymore. Otherwise if you do not react negatively about this I think that she will perceive this as an agreement of you that she can go further then a massage. It is likely that she will get an "internal" massage soon... In fact her communication is a kind of question to you if this is OK for you without asking it literally...
My story, but feeling that my opinion would not be folllowed if I did not want her to see that other guy:
One day she started to talk regularly about a guy at the gym (a classic...) and I felt that she was interested in him and I realized that there was much chance that it possibly could evolve in something more then a friendship. I also felt in the way and the frequency she was talking about that guy that in a way she was warning me that this could happen and asking me in a veiled way a kind of permission to try it. She knows me very well and I think she felt and thought that it was possible that I would be eventually ok with it. One day she said to me that het tried to kiss her but that it did not happened.That was again a kind of test to see how I would react mentioning an idea of something that could happen without having done it really and having been cheating on me. My reaction wast hat she should maybe have tried it and that she maybe would have liked it!? She gave me a little smile and said nothing. The next step was one week later. When we were having a drink together shes said that they kissed and added that she like it. That was the turning point. I felt that she wanted it and it was of no use for me to try to prevent this, making a scene and loosing her maybe. So when she was talking about that guy I gradually made her clear that I was ok if she would want to try things with him because I loved her so much and that I wanted that she would be happy (and maybe find the sexual fulfillment that she did not get completely from me.) The following weeks she met him more frequently and she did an effort to keep me happy. They were also seeing each other out of the gym for other sporting activities such as swimming and running. One day she told me that they went further then kissing but without having PIV-sex. I was quite curious about what they did and only the idea made me hard and it raised quite my libido. She told me that he fingered her and she sucked him and that he was quite a hot guy. When in bed I tried to have sex with her but she insisted to pleasure me in other ways. It was clear it was only a matter of time that they would have intercourse. I also had seen that she had condoms in her purse what I found was also exciting thinking when they were going to use them. Clearly she was resolute to go further.
Comment t'as t'elle donner du plaisir autrement et pourquoi n'a t'elle pas voulu une relation traditionnelle et a t'elle insisté pour faire autrement à sa façon ?
Translation: How did she give you pleasure differently and why didn't she want a traditional relationship and insist on doing things differently in her own way?
It does sound like you have a deep-seated issue with it so that would suggest your concern is genuine.
A slightly different line of questioning would be: how much value to you put on her happiness? Have you asked her why she likes to indulge in this? Have you tried to offer her a massage?
Just be honest with your girlfriend. ( I need to talk to you. I really love you and would like to take this relationship to the next level. But I’m having a hard time with this guy you’re see and the stories you are telling me about your relationship with him. Please help me understand what’s going on) communicate, ask the hard questions you need answered so you feel comfortable going forward.
In lots of cuckold-relationships the female partner does not want to have PIV-intecourse with the cuck anymore. Mostly because she gets much better sex with her lover or because she falls in love with him or both. To keep everybody happy the cuck also needs (mostly) to have now and the some sexual gratification mostly in another way then PIV with his wife. Mostly a kind of masturbation. This is what happened to me.