You are doing a great service by trying to get people to see the full picture with this kind of dynamic instead of jumping in and getting hurt. The article you put a link to sounds like something that all of these people here write about in their stories about what turns them on however. You might reach one or two of them eventually in time.

Posted by: subhubphx

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I get it, cuckolding and other humiliation-based stuff can be sexually appealing for them while their gooning, but for how long before the allure of a fetish wears off?  If that ever happens, the damage is done.  Tread carefully my friends.

Kudos, @subhubphx, for saying this out loud.  Even though my wife is dominant and I am formally submissive to her, she tells me that our FLR has enhanced her respect for me and she praises what she calls my "courage" in liberating myself from being "alpha" all the time and going all-in on my trust for her.  Respect and avoidance of humiliation and degradation are THE tenants of our successful FLR.

Everyone needs to feel loved and supported and many of these behaviors CAN be sexualized but they shouldn't define the entire relationship dynamic. Thanks! 

@evolvingyourman yes, they can be sexualized, but, if an attempt is made to sexualize them and it fails, what is left are the hurtful words and actions that cannot be forgotten.  A deep scar is what will be left.

I think most well-adjusted adults understand to compartmentalize and separate their sexualized life with the actual day-to-day lives they lead.  Also, most lives go through seasons, things change, unlikely that your fetishized sexual lives last forever.  You move on