Hi everyone,

I’m kind of borrowing this topic idea from @nika (hope she won’t mind!) because I’d love to hear women’s perspectives on a few questions:

1. At what point in your life did the idea of dominating a man (or partner) start to appeal to you—or even excite you? Was there something that triggered it? Did it come gradually, maybe after a few failed relationships, raising kids and learning to put your foot down, or even running a business and realizing what it’s like to be the boss?

2. The public perception of a submissive male is not a good one. There is a huge taboo on it, and many misperceptions on what a submissive male actually is. The biggest misperception is that being submissive is weak. What made you start to change your view of male submissiveness—from seeing it as weakness to considering it a potential strength in a life partner?
3. When you were first introduced to the idea of femdom, or when your partner wanted to worship you, what was your first reaction? If you pushed it away at first, what were the reasons? (e.g., not feeling confident enough, not believing you were worthy of it, or being afraid of judgment if you accepted it)

4. Is there something—like a specific act (for example, a foot fetish) or a scene (like a cuckolding chair)—that would instantly turn you off if you saw it? Something that would make your partner lose value in your erotic imagination?
5. More broadly, are there limits in submission that you feel are necessary to keep the erotic desire and/or mutual respect alive between you and your partner? If so, which ones?
6. Have you ever felt like leading or dominating your partner could be a burden—more like extra work than a gift in your relationship? Could you explain a bit?

7. Are there things you secretly wish your submissive husband/boyfriend/partner would do, but you’re a bit too shy—or reluctant—to ask for?

8.  Have you ever regretted doing something as a domme?