For those who are currently in an FLR/WLM, did your relationship start as an FLR, or did it become one later?
For Karin and me, our relationship started as a non-monogamous FLR. Ever since I've known Her, Karin has seemed to radiate authority and I immediately felt compelled to obey Her. There are a few possible reasons.
She was a retired teacher and I was 18 but still finishing my senior year of high school when we were together for the first time. She was 53 then, and I have always been attracted to older women including some of my teachers.
Her voice is soft but firm, and seems to imply there will be consequences for disappointing or disobeying Her. She makes the rules, and isn't afraid to change them occasionally to suit Her needs. She can do this without being "bossy" unless She chooses to be.
She is a very confident woman, and absolutely never lets the fact that She is a woman stop Her from doing or getting anything She wants.
She is well-educated, articulate, and intelligent, but expresses Herself in a way that doesn't make you feel inferior, even if She is the frequently smartest person in the room.
I could never imagine having any sort of relationship with Karin unless She was in control. An FLR suits Her (and us) perfectly.
On average most alternative lifestyles begin later...... In the times they started from the very beginning this is a relationship that started with a lot of trust and confidence.... Most relationships don't start that way
You found a one in a million have a good one 💯
My relationship didn't initially start out like that, but it quickly shifted to that as soon as we moved in together. Initially it was just him doing more and more around the house because he loved seeing how happy it made me. By the time we got married, our dynamic had been firmly established.
My first marriage began very traditionally and ended with her taking over, cheating on me, and me discovering my passion for cuckoldry. The marriage didn't last.
I started my second marriage as a FLR from the very beginning. My wife knew everything back then. Everything!
That marriage is still holding up today.
So, from personal experience, I would say: FLR is best from the very beginning.
Unfortunately, that's probably only the rarest of cases.
For us, it definitely came later. My husband and I had been married for over a decade before we even talked about chastity or a more defined FLR. Life was busy with work and kids and we didn’t have that dynamic in the beginning. But when we did start exploring it, it completely changed the way we connect.
One of the turning points for us was actually when I bought his first proper cage from lockthecock. It was a Sevanda Ergo cage if I remember right. This is what it looks like: https://lockthecock.com/collections/silicone-male-chastity-devices/products/sevanda-ergo-cage-transparent
We’d tried a cheaper one before, but this one was comfortable enough for longer wear. Because of that, we could really explore the emotional side without worrying about discomfort or safety. That’s when chastity stopped feeling like a short term game and started becoming part of our ongoing connection. So I’d say, whether it starts from day one or years down the road, the key is finding what feels authentic and sometimes the right tool can make all the difference. 💛
I’ve had 2 relationships in my life both were TPE relationship. The first was to a black Master who owned me completely for a little over 8 months. The other is to my dominant Mistress/ wife of 19 years. My marriage was FLR TPE from the start. I’m a hopeless submissive slave I love dominant people both male and female.