For those who are currently in an FLR/WLM, did your relationship start as an FLR, or did it become one later?

For Karin and me, our relationship started as a non-monogamous FLR. Ever since I've known Her, Karin has seemed to radiate authority and I immediately felt compelled to obey Her. There are a few possible reasons.

She was a retired teacher and I was 18 but still finishing my senior year of high school when we were together for the first time. She was 53 then, and I have always been attracted to older women including some of my teachers.

Her voice is soft but firm, and seems to imply there will be consequences for disappointing or disobeying Her. She makes the rules, and isn't afraid to change them occasionally to suit Her needs. She can do this without being "bossy" unless She chooses to be.

She is a very confident woman, and absolutely never lets the fact that She is a woman stop Her from doing or getting anything She wants.

She is well-educated, articulate, and intelligent, but expresses Herself in a way that doesn't make you feel inferior, even if She is the frequently smartest person in the room.

I could never imagine having any sort of relationship with Karin unless She was in control. An FLR suits Her (and us) perfectly.