Married my high school sweetheart 10 years after graduation. We both loved the kink and she loved the control when we were 15. I was collared for sex since I was 15. Eventually there would be long term chastity in the marriage along with the weekend beatings etc.Life would throw us a curve ball and bad divorce. Met a wonderful women and remarried quickly. Played "regular sex" for a time. In time regular sex did not work, no erection. New wife and I suffered for a time, until the day I opened up to her about my 26 years of training. She took it well and began to explore. 

Years would pass with her honing her kingdom and home along with me. I was never happier and healthier, then one night out of the blue she announced that it was not working for her and it all stopped, over night.

A year and a half has passed and we now are exploring how and why. In the end, the life styles we each desire are no longer synced. I believe we still love each other but we have lost the most amazing connection I have ever experienced. To night we both agreed that neither of us has a solution. 

I struggle with how quickly it came to an end. No warnings, no discussions, there were no problems that I was aware of. Today I am looking for input from other women who may have come to this realization and what was the outcome in your marriages? Cheers, Dave