My wife and I (I'm 35, she's 25) practice orgasm denial, whether during sex or masturbation. It doesn't matter.Our denial period is usually 35 days long. It always ends with my orgasm being ruined. Lately, my wife has started wanting me to not just ejaculate, but to completely eat my sperm. Has anyone encountered something similar? How interesting is this practice and is it worth developing?The wife believes that as soon as the discharge occurs, the semen should end up in the mouth.Please forgive me if there are any mistakes in the text, I'm actively learning English)
Is it worth developing?
It depends. What's the point of it?
If it's for fun, considering both likes orgasm denial, it can be. Some women find arousing that man, after cums, tends to be very reluctant to eat.
Some couples enjoy this on a deeper level because it was often linked to subjective meanings. The symbolism or rituals behind the act may vary from couple to couple. You can read more about here:
- To Eat His Own
- Cumsumption: A Daily Ritual of Sexual Authority and Loving Devotion
- The Art of Cum Eating: Conditioning Desire and Deepening Connection
- Post-Nut Humiliation: The Perfect Time to Play with Emotions
Let me explain a bit. We're both into orgasm destruction and both like the idea of denial, but I meant that my wife likes it, and I'm the one practicing it. We have abstinence, a penis cage, but I'm the only one limited in orgasm. My wife, on the other hand, is free. And this isn't a one-time practice or just a game; it's something we've been practicing for over four years. There was a question about sperm in that context; I'd like to know if anyone has had a similar experience or how they feel about a wife, a woman, believing that a man is simply obligated to consume both his own semen and that of other men. Mandatory. That's what I was asking about: should this issue be developed further, should the relationship level be changed?
There is nothing that you should do or are obliged to develop further. But I think that is a quite common step in a cuckolding relationship. I think it is a (possible) typical evolution in cuckolding. It is a step further in submission, in accepting and showing acceptance of your submission and possibly also a proof that you are a beta-male whom's sperm (of lower quality) is not to go in a woman to fertilise her as a (real) alpha-male does. It is also a step in learning to getting used to the taste and texture of sperm and the act of eating it to the further stage of cleaning up the pussy of your wife when she has been inseminated by another male. Maybe she does/want this on purpose but it can also be something subliminal that she wants driven by a kind of biological subconscious that she wants (only) to be in contact with the semen of her lover and not with your semen anymore. Semen is not only something biological but also a kind of vehicle of power that you can spread when you are an Alpha-male (bull/lover) but not as a Beta-male(cuckold). One of the stages is also when your wife does want to have sex without a condom with her bull and with a condom with you. This is mostly the stage where the Bull becomes the lover and that they also get in love with each other instead of having a pure sexual relationship. When my girlfriend and myself got in that stage she did not want to have contact with my semen in any way in conscious but also I think in a unconscious(biological) way to give her bull/lover the genetic exclusivity to her body. In our cuckolding triangle is eating the semen of her bull, mostly by cleaning her up the proof to myself and her that I accept what she does with her bull but and accept my role in this relational triangle also makes a kind of fluidbonding not only between her bull and her but also between her bull and me and me and her what enhances and balances the relationship between our three. With time you start to like the taste ans smell of semen and start to crave it. I do. Have fun! 🙂
There is nothing that you should do or are obliged to develop further. But I think that is a quite common step in a cuckolding relationship. I think it is a (possible) typical evolution in cuckolding. It is a step further in submission, in accepting and showing acceptance of your submission and possibly also a proof that you are a beta-male whom's sperm (of lower quality) is not to go in a woman to fertilise her as a (real) alpha-male does. It is also a step in learning to getting used to the taste and texture of sperm and the act of eating it to the further stage of cleaning up the pussy of your wife when she has been inseminated by another male. Maybe she does/want this on purpose but it can also be something subliminal that she wants driven by a kind of biological subconscious that she wants (only) to be in contact with the semen of her lover and not with your semen anymore. Semen is not only something biological but also a kind of vehicle of power that you can spread when you are an Alpha-male (bull/lover) but not as a Beta-male(cuckold). One of the stages is also when your wife does want to have sex without a condom with her bull and with a condom with you. This is mostly the stage where the Bull becomes the lover and that they also get in love with each other instead of having a pure sexual relationship. When my girlfriend and myself got in that stage she did not want to have contact with my semen in any way in conscious but also I think in a unconscious(biological) way to give her bull/lover the genetic exclusivity to her body. In our cuckolding triangle is eating the semen of her bull, mostly by cleaning her up the proof to myself and her that I accept what she does with her bull but and accept my role in this relational triangle also makes a kind of fluidbonding not only between her bull and her but also between her bull and me and me and her what enhances and balances the relationship between our three. With time you start to like the taste ans smell of semen and start to crave it. I do. Have fun! 🙂
What the actual fuck?
That is somethingy you need to discover for yourself. It is very delicate and individual matter.
For example my wife and I are monogamous, we only play with each other.
One time while we were passionate I told her how much I adore her, and she say "prove it!", and without even thinking I said "Would you like me to clean up that divine pussy with my tongue as a sign of respect?" She went crazy wet and wild. And said "I want you to suck out every single drop!".
So I did! It was super spontaneous, super hot and had meaning for both of us. I wanted to show how much I worship her, and she felt it the same way. It connected us even deeper.
My point, you must BOTH see something in it, if there is no deeper point, and symbolics, it is forcing, and forcing never ever end well.
Good luck, we are here if you need something more.
You know, I agree about acceptance and emotional connection. Without that, simply meeting a lover would become just sex. But I want her to be able to enjoy herself, to feel even more desirable, to see her face when another male reaches her cervix and she can't help but moan, enjoying herself, to feel how desirable she is, and that she gives herself to him too, and you give her that feeling through someone else—it's quite powerful.
It is powerful indeed! Have you ever brought it up with her or tested her somehow?
If you guys decide to try for it, just make sure you take things slow...expectations from fantasy and reality often hit differently.
If it turns out OK, just be sure not to fall in secundary plan and play fool in her sex life. Respect, and love must go both ways, othervise it is just abussive relationship when one person take for granted partmers devotion...unless ofc you want to feel like worthless toy, then that is flavour of sexuality, and enjoy it!
We practice orgasm denial but if I begged after a week she would relent and allow me an orgasm. But now she finally realizes that I am nice and submissive when I don't cum. So now she says that I should never be allowed to cum again.
I always do my clean up duty when I was allowed to cum.
Yes, abstaining from orgasm is a good thing. Tell me, if another man came inside your wife, would you also clean up the sperm?
Hi there.
I'm in an FLR and permanently orgasm (penile) denied except for monthly "maintenance ruins" and if my wife decides to do something she calls "Jizzy January". The rule is that I eat any sperm I produce, which gets challenging if JJ's on the cards because that involves at least one ruined orgasm per day. TBF I've come to quite like it and it does amuse her, so I'd say it is something a subby hubby should do.
I noticed that my post about orgasm denial was disliked by some site members. I'd like to know the reason why. Maybe we can have an interesting conversation.
What you do is commendable. Not many people understand the depth of feelings and relationships.Hi there.
I'm in an FLR and permanently orgasm (penile) denied except for monthly "maintenance ruins" and if my wife decides to do something she calls "Jizzy January". The rule is that I eat any sperm I produce, which gets challenging if JJ's on the cards because that involves at least one ruined orgasm per day. TBF I've come to quite like it and it does amuse her, so I'd say it is something a subby hubby should do.