My wife and I got married 14 years ago as virgins and found out she has vaginismus. PiV was impossible. So it was a journey for 5 years before it was possible, but it was still too uncomfortable for her. We had anal only for period of time and eventually that stopped as we both grew into new roles in our marriage. This led to a pussy free relationship and only oral on occasion.

The normal roles of marriage routine didn’t suit us. This evolved over time to include denial. The issues we faced early on in marriage ignited a variety of kinks in us maybe.

My wife did a lot of research and it was evident that she wanted to get away from the timid shy woman and become more dominant and in control. Herself esteem needed a boost which was surprising because she’s a petite stunning blonde. So she spent time developing herself and exploring her sexuality.

Things shifted when she made good progress with larger dildo sizes and found penetration was actually quite enjoyable. Since we were well into the denial and female led style relationship it was clear that she needed to explore things with others. So she spent time sexting with guys and found someone she really connected with. She had many online chats and cam sex with him and it was hot for both of us. She went back and forth with other guys but kept in contact with this guy she connected with in the beginning. I found this all incredibly exciting. I’m quite naturally dominant so I’ve learned a lot and I’m surprised how much closer we both are. We are brutally open and honest, more emotionally connected and have more sexual satisfaction than ever. 

Things have developed a lot since then and there’s still more things to explore in our relationship.