Hello everyone,
I’ve been part of the FLR and D/s world for years, long enough to understand that this isn’t a preference or a fantasy for me — it’s simply how I’m wired. I function best when I belong to a woman who leads completely, who doesn’t hesitate to take control and expects me to serve, obey, and support her goals without question.
Total Power Exchange isn’t an idea I play with — it’s the space where I feel most real. I don’t need equality in the traditional sense; I need purpose, direction, and the structure that comes from surrendering to a woman’s authority. When I’m hers, everything aligns — my discipline, focus, energy. I do what’s needed, I give what’s asked, and I find peace in that.
It takes the right kind of woman — strong, grounded, intelligent — to own that dynamic fully. And it takes a certain kind of man to accept that his fulfillment comes from giving, not taking. I’ve learned that about myself. I’m here because I’m ready to live that truth again, with someone who understands what a real TPE means: trust, control, devotion — lived, not just discussed.
I like what you have to say, I self-lock mostly my wife knows it. I don't think she's actually discovered the entire benefits of it for herself yet, there's a little bit of self-exploration that she hasn't done yet.
I love the dynamic and yes, it's only during sex. Any other time in life we are a team and I think she seems to think that I wanted her to take over every aspect of our lives by doing this, but that's not the case anyway. I love the aspect ratio of her making the decisions because they are smarter than most of mine. So thank you so much for that post. Very well written! What kind of cage are you wearing also? Here's mine