Emily, All
My wife is not interested in a FLM. She's not into kink (being a D, male chastity, pegging). My libido has always been much higher than hers. I have learned not to pester her with my sexual desires so we only have sex when she initiates - twice since... maybe last November.
I do understand if a husband offers to be in an FLM and the wife declines that he's still in an FLM, just not the kind he wanted. It's the married lifestyle his wife wants. The husband must his wife's decision to be a normal, vanilla, marriage of equals rather than the submissive lifestyle he prefers. Â
Do you recommend I masturbate as necessary to relieve my sexual desire so I'm less inclined to bother her? or use male chastity of my own volition as a constant reminder to accept the vanilla life she prefers? I suspect some will tell me the correct answer is to ask my wife, but I don't think she'd want to have the discussion.
If the latter, how do I resolve these issues?
1) wearing chastity makes me focus even more on my penis and the desire to ejaculate even stronger as irt emphasizes my locked genitals
2) wearing a chastity devise does provide increasing discomfort as moisture develops and the dangly bits get irritated. I have tried baby powder and it helps for a while. suggestions on how to stay more comfortable when locked. I actually enjoy being locked as my preference is to be submissive.
To me a marriage, be it vanilla, FLR, polly, etc, is a union between several parties and should serve all parties. If one party is left on the outside trying to do mind hacks to make it more palatable, there are issues that should be discussed and resolved. If one party after reasonable effort is not approachable or simply wont talk, then it's time to change the nature of the relationship. Life is way to short to waste.Â
