Is this where I can post ask emma questions? Or are we supposed to email those?
Here is my ask emma
Hi Emma,
I’ve been reading your site for a while, and I have to say that I love it. Everything about it resonates with me: the confidence, the unapologetic ownership of sexuality and the way you celebrate women. I really respect that and I respect what you are doing with showing the reasons for the way we feel. It can all feel confusing and sometimes the fact I'm confused makes me feel guilty or like I'm not a good wife.
that said, I don’t connect with the way cuckold relationships are portrayed on the site, especially the focus on humiliation or comparison. For me, that’s not what gives me fulfillment
Yes. I do have a relationship with two men. My husband is the man I connect to emotionally. My boyfriend is more about the physical side of things. Yes. my husband is slim build and about five inches and not so thick around, and my boyfriend built more muscular and is closer to seven and thick. Yes, they feel different. Obviously. My husband knew his size when we married, and he’s self-conscious about it to a point so, humiliating him or making him feel like its some sort of shortcoming is not what I want.
Here’s the thing that matters. Yes. My husband, my boyfriend and I are all friends. We hang out together, play darts at our local 7th hill taproom. We have a few drinks, we laugh, and then often end up back at our place. When we’re together, it’s not about humiliation, it’s about ME being the focus of attention.
My husband embraces the dynamic not because he is shamed into it but because he loves me and loves to see my passion. My boyfriend enjoys being part of it and we all feel connected.
How can we highlight the differences between the two men without it needing to be humiliating? I want my husband to know that he is enhancing our marriage with this dynamic. I’d love to hear your thoughts on how to navigate that, because it’s something I care deeply about.
Thanks for creating a space where women like me can explore and reflect openly. I don't know any other sites that are a female first mindset where we can talk about non traditional relationship ideals.
Thanks Emma,
Lana(Bear)
This place is as good as any, I'll create an Ask Emma forum though, it's a good idea to have one. I get most of them via email right now. Thank you for your question.
Ok I'm not Emma......
But I friend of mine let's call her Dawn has the very same situation
How she deals with it is she takes all the humiliation on to her self saying things like it's not him it's her she's the one with needs any woman would be happy with him he's perfect she just can't get enough
Now before we get to far down that yes that does get her going and turn her on .... But there are times she doesn't want that so she goes into how lucky she is no humiliation just compare how much she gets for being her and how her husband makes her the happiest person on the planet
You can form this any way you want it's your relationship after all
We hang out together, play darts at our local 7th hill taproom. We have a few drinks, we laugh...
You were very specific about the location name. Are you certain that you want this to be said so specific?
My wife is dominant and she does enjoy humiliating me and I do feel hurt but at the same time I’m turned on by it. We belonged to this femdom group in the Bay Area San Francisco. It was an open meeting of about 50 people. Mistress in charge the moderator I guess they chair woman decided to do this game truth or dare. I mean there was a lot of couples and single people there and the dares were like kissing feet barking like dogs funny stuff. It came to my wife they said truth and my wife got up and had me stand up too. She said we are married but I have sex with other men, black men and my husband here accepts it don’t you slave and I said yes Mistress . The people reacted laughing like I felt humiliated that’s for sure. What came next really took it to another level. This black man walked up to my wife in front of everyone and said dare and kissed my wife. My wife went right along they embraced he squeezed my wife’s butt and they kissed long and passionately. As he walked away and said I guess she proved her point and the people cheered and clapped. The fun and games were over they served refreshments I was still in my collar Mistress held the leash I kneeled by her chair and she talked to that man who had kissed her. When we left he had his arm around my wife and I was behind them. The moderator said well looks like we made a love connection here tonight and everyone clapped again for them. We ended up going to his apartment on Bush street were they ended up making love in front of me all night and of course I had to do clean them orally for their pleasure.