We have lived the half open marriage for the last ten years. My wife and I could not be more in love with each. Let’s be honest about it. It has its ups and downs when it comes to finding a steady Bull or lover your wife enjoys. It’s been a incredibly rewarding ten years.

From my point of view, as in the case of Forced by, I agree with the idea of wives "forcing" their partners to remain faithful and hubbies putting up with them having a boyfriend.

Congratulations, Big hands.

We're opening our relationship for her 😉

@always4herpleasure Congrats on the move. I hope you find all you both are looking for and that this only strengthens your bond.

Thank you @Danmac060801 for the words of encouragement.  We're coming at this from opposite sides but any words of advice would be appreciated 

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From my point of view, as in the case of Forced by, I agree with the idea of wives "forcing" their partners to remain faithful and hubbies putting up with them having a boyfriend.

Congratulations, Big hands.

I think "forcing" and "putting up with" is the wrong way to look at it since it will only cause long term resentment. Understanding the underlying needs and working together to ensure her needs are met may not be the way he always envisioned his marriage but doing so for the betterment of the couple is a good path forward. The former seems more crude and I always cringe at the word "forced" because it seems rapey and non-consentey.

It's just a game.

I feel like this is sort of where me and my girlfriend are headed. She seems to cheat and hang out with other guys whenever. I have sort of looked the other way. However, for me I know that if I even looked at another woman she would break up with me. It is a major double standard. 

Are you talking about yourself ? Seems?!? Have you caught her like she has caught you?

Your girlfriend isn’t a cheater. You seem to leave out facts✅ get real and level up 

Certainly works for us and I would not like to imagine how our relationship would be today not having made that choice.

This type of relationship is known as an Asymmetric relationship.

I am there now. My wife has a boyfriend and I'm denied by her. 

It's simultaneously very arousing and giving me massive butterflies. 

Love to chat with all, about it, here. 

Oh yea? Do tell! Where, when, and how have you felt those massive butterflies? 

I think the "how" is most interesting. I feel conflicted and my stomach and heart flip upside down whenever I see or hear them being close together, sharing moments, even if they aren't sexual. I'm simultaneously very aroused by her giving herself to him; proud that she is able to take charge of her own desires and needs (that wasn't always the case); a bit scared in case my faith in her love for me ends up broken; excited I get to be a voyeur; thrilled at the whole "taboo" feel of what she is doing;.. when she laughs with him, touches him when we are out together; when they kiss... and when she returns to me and it's like he doesn't exist for a while. I don't want him gone, he's a nice guy too and I get along with him. But when she has returned to me emotionally and not "just" physically being present with me. 

Wrote too much there. Hope you get the drift. 

Incidentally writing this with S beside me in bed this morning 😀

Awh! 😍 Thanks for answering where, when and how. I think the details were helpful in understanding your experience. It feels good. Seems like you value both emotional connection (not just “physical” connection) and her personal growth. Do you think the intimacy is deepening between the two of you? Does the guy want to stay?