It would remove the either-or mentality. Instead of her thinking she can only have you if she sacrifices other people an experiences from her life, she would be able to have those experiences and you. That might give the relationship some additional lasting power.

I'm recently divorced and caring for my son who is a senior in high school.  That being said consensional non monogame is definitely something that I'm personally interrested moving forward. 

I think that can help—but only if, in addition to everyday communication, there's also strong communication about when and with whom she's "cheating on you." If that connection breaks, you'll no longer have a long-distance relationship, but rather just a romantic pen pal.

Consensual non monogamy can work one sided two way or whatever 

But and this is coming from a swinger who has been a swinger for 25 years or more it can be ........ No scratch that it is very very hard to maintain..... It takes a lot of communication a lot of understanding a lot of self reflection and a hell of a lot of trust 

It's like playing the video game 🎮 of life in hell mode but it's your relationship 

Now some of us can play in hell mode no problem...... Others it's named hell mode for a reason..... All the emotions come out all the risk is there it can end the relationship at the drop of a hat 

However it can be a grate thing as well all the fun good times and grand adventures 

It's not a fix all or a solution to anything it's a way of life part of your lifestyle and relationship and it takes a lot of work from both of you to make it work 

But if both of you don't mind hard work and honesty in your relationship and are ok with being able to make big sacrifices for others happiness you can do it 

My best advice take it slow and cut each other a lot of slack ..... If anything fucks up back up stop ground yourselfs before you start again 

"All the emotions come out all the risk is there it can end the relationship at the drop of a hat"

Anyone who plays with non-monogamy (ethical or otherwise) must have this knowledge. It is of the utmost importance if you want your relationship to last. Playing fast and loose with this knowledge will kill a relationship every time.

If your relationship isn't strong to start with, it probably won't help.

Do I have a say in this?! How about NO, thanks! Your secrets keep you sick. It would feel good if you literally communicated with me.

It’s in your hands. I trust you’ll make the right decision.