males are scared of what the female will think of him or think less of him.  The female needs to assure him that she loves him and she really wants him to do this for her.  Yes to surrender and submit and let her turn him into a sissy cuckold.  Yes to wear panties most of the time - female nities to bed - to wear bra and dresses and heels to let yourself feel more sissy-fem.

Of course we do. For most people, the limbic brain will always overcome the rational.

Women have evolved to choose mates that can provide and protect. They will be drawn to alphas for this very reason and would select one as a primary partner if they could. Men are so driven to compete for this the attention of the 'best' women that it has resulted in almost all the advances that enable us to live the way we do. That drive still exists. Even though women are now far more educated by men in most first world countries, male inventors outnumber their female counterparts by factors. Men's inherent adherence to gender roles drives their appetite for risk and the need to be seen a 'consequential'.

Meanwhile, woman make themselves attractive to men who have evolved with an innate desire to produce successful offspring. Short skirts, low-cut tops and makeup exist to exemplify positive mating characteristics. Even highly educated women go to great lengths to make themselves 'mateworthy' by showing off their beauty (code for the ability to co-create successful offspring). Go out in any major city in the world and you'll see this dance of attraction play out every weekend.

But humans are are evolving. Blind obedience to primal attraction is now more nuanced for humans. Any initial physical attraction will be quickly downgraded if it is perceived to comes at the cost of long-term physical or emotional safety. Both the provider/protector and successful sexual partner/mother roles are evolving as humans become less dependent on physical strength of their male partner and his male children for success.

I suspect Emma and Kev's relationship began with an innate sense of attraction which was later reinforced by shared ideals and interests 

What I admire about Emma and Kev is that they seem to have successfully stepped so far outside of innate, limbic instincts would normally underpin a 'successful' marriage, and created a safe, almost conspiratorial space where she and he can test some really disruptive ideas together. That's what draws we readers to the flame of Emma's blog. We're drawn to the opportunity of vicariously experiencing the journey of two people of immense creativity and courage.

Having said that, I find myself reacting almost viscerally to some of the things Emma writes - some of the acts he submits to and some of the humiliations she subjects him to. I imagine they would need to ton of aftercare to reconnect from. Even if I did have the guts and innate submissiveness of Kev, I think I'd need regular breaks to re-balance the relationship to something more equal, with less stress and tension. Maybe they actually do that in the 'vanilla' portion of their lives together, but it would make for poor copy in a kink blog, so doesn't make the grade.

That's a shame, because this is what interests me most.

We got a taste of this in Emma's story about Kev's submission healing her fear of abandonment. Similarly, the acknowledgement by Emma that she 'doesn't deserve a husband like Kev' touched me more than I expected.

For me, this is Emma at her best. I'd love to know more about how she and Kev achieve a sense of mutual trust and regard - not just at a theoretical level, or one crafted for titillation, but also in the every-day actions that bring them back together after stepping so far outside typical gender roles - the stuff that a life together is made of.

How did Emma negotiate the shit in her relationship towards polyamory? What has been behind some of the tougher conversations in their relationship - the times where she cried with Kev and the difficult discussions and agreements that followed. Emma describes aftercare as being about clean-up and cuddling. But there must be more to it than that. What about the hours and days after a deeply unsettling (for Kev) cuckolding event?  How does she address Kev in their normal relationship? Is it 24/7 kink? What do their relationships with family and friends look like? Do they even know that Emma is the relationship lead, or do they outwardly present as just a couple deeply in love?

It'd be good to know.

I only had 2 relationships in my life the first was a Master/slave relationship when I was 17 year old virgin. I had a 40 year old dominant black man as my Master. He was gay and so was I at that time of my life. Master didn’t allow me to be around women very much a few lesbian couples when I was serving at parties my Master hosted. Then after Master broke up with me I was very fortunate to have met my dominant wife. It’s TPE femdom cuckold bbc only marriage . So I really have no opinion I do what ever my owner tells me to do my life is about submission and obedience to my Mistress/wife.