I stumbled upon this site and I read the story about a wife who is having a similar experience in 26 my fiancee is 27 we met in college. Before meeting him I was a proud slut I’d say I’m perceived as hot and I hooked up with a lot of hot guys. My Fiancée is super loving and supportive he’s a great provider but I still fantasize about the type of men who once made me scream and I lost interest in sex with my fiancée occasionally he’s gotten very frustrated and sometimes mean he also had less partners then I. I do believe different people have different strengths and no one person can do everything in my experience the guys who made me scream also were terrible long term partners. I’m thinking about bringing up chastity and if that goes well maybe cuckolding bc I need to improve my bedroom experience and when he brought up the idea of him hooking up on the side it really unnerved me bc for men sex is way different and instead of taking through things he immediately went to his need and id much rather he focus on my needs. I’d prefer to hear from other women in this space on how they think about this?
I hear where you’re coming from, and I think you’re already on the right track by recognizing that men and women process sex very differently. Men tend to sexually imprint on their partner and see her as the primary source of their sexual needs almost like a food supply. Women, on the other hand, don’t imprint in the same way because our sexuality is more fluid and frankly our opportunities are more plentiful. Our sexuality thrives when we’re given permission to explore. It can feel unsettling when he is focused on his needs primarily instead of slowing down to consider how he can center you and your needs.
Chastity can be such a powerful starting point here because it reframes his attention and helps him redirect his focus from release to serving you. It gently realigns the dynamic so your needs come first.
Cuckolding is much more advanced and definitely takes time, communication, and trust to build, but it can absolutely be an option if you both decide it strengthens your bond instead of weakening it. Start with role play and see how it lands, either full stop or keep testing the waters. Either way the key is making sure both of your needs are met both in and out of the bedroom because it comes as no surprise that if they arent, resentment will grow.
His needs matter too, but they should orbit around yours, and it sounds like you already sense that shift is necessary for you to feel safe & happy in your relationship. Good luck!
I feel like so terrible when I fantasize about past men not bc I loved them but I loved what they did to me they were a tool to accomplish something that doesn’t mean I don’t love my bf. He complains that I’m enthusiastic when I give blowjobs for example but it’s hard for me to be unless I’m with a guy I have strong physical desire for and a strong sense of submission my BF doesn’t bring that primal instinct out of me. He’s good at going down on me and I want our sex to center around that and chastity could def help accomplish it.
Its about accepting what he does and doesn't do for you. He doesn’t light that primal part of you up and acknowledging that for both of you is the first part. The second part is what to do with it, figuring out ways to make your relationship thrive despite that. Maybe that level of physical fire never really existed between you two, and that’s okay. You get to choose who you partner with, and some parts of passion just happen naturally, while others need a little extra work.
Would you rather have a simmering fire with the emotional connection and a flaming inferno in the bedroom? Or would you rather have a flaming inferno with your emotional connection and a simmering fire in the bedroom. I'd take the emotional connection every day of the week but that doesn't mean I won't be longing for more in the other aspect from time to time.
I hear you on the blowjob angle. I’d much rather watch Kev masturbate than give a blowjob but it doesn’t make it any less hot. We just adapt, focus on what works, and lean into what feels good and makes our blood flow. It’s about shaping the sexual dynamic around what sparks desire for both of you, even if it isn’t the kind of wild chemistry you had in the past.
I know it was asked for women to comment but I think you are both really downplaying the male prospective in this conversation. Quite simply look at the advice your giving Sarah recognize areas where your partner doesn’t meet your needs express them and find a way to have them meet through different partners. Her partner expressed an area where she was not meeting his needs “ a more passionate blowjob” you are unmotivated to do so and he suggested finding an outside partner to meet his needs. I think this is the fundamental flaw with this whole relationship concept. I don’t think man or woman you’re deserving of anything in a relationship that you would not be willing to give your partner. You speak about being uncomfortable with your man seeking sexual gratification outside of your relationship, as if he would not be experiencing that same uncomfortability but for some reason you feel he should adapt, and you should not be forced to. To me that will never be the basis for a healthy relationship.
I hear where you’re coming from, and I think you’re already on the right track by recognizing that men and women process sex very differently. Men tend to sexually imprint on their partner and see her as the primary source of their sexual needs almost like a food supply. Women, on the other hand, don’t imprint in the same way because our sexuality is more fluid and frankly our opportunities are more plentiful. Our sexuality thrives when we’re given permission to explore. It can feel unsettling when he is focused on his needs primarily instead of slowing down to consider how he can center you and your needs.
Chastity can be such a powerful starting point here because it reframes his attention and helps him redirect his focus from release to serving you. It gently realigns the dynamic so your needs come first.
Cuckolding is much more advanced and definitely takes time, communication, and trust to build, but it can absolutely be an option if you both decide it strengthens your bond instead of weakening it. Start with role play and see how it lands, either full stop or keep testing the waters. Either way the key is making sure both of your needs are met both in and out of the bedroom because it comes as no surprise that if they arent, resentment will grow.
His needs matter too, but they should orbit around yours, and it sounds like you already sense that shift is necessary for you to feel safe & happy in your relationship. Good luck!
As a submissive husband I can realy say this answAs a submissive husband I can truly say that this answer is spot on!
My wife has not yet cuckolded me. But if she wanted to, the door would be open. I am intermittently in a chastity cage and now always wear more feminine panties than my wife.
This makes me feel both more submissive and she can easily correct me and I focus on her pleasure 24/7.
Just play your cards right and you will quickly get a man who is attentive to your needs, obedient and then you will easily be able to cuckold him.
You will probably find that he brings up cuckolding as a possibility without you having to say anything about it first.
If I were completely confident that my wife would not look down on me and that she would not leave me if she got much better sex with another man, I would actually beg her to take a lover she wants.
I would have loved to be locked in a chastity cage and lick her clean if that was our only sex together. But I love that she still often lets me lick her even though we no longer have regular intercourse. 🥰
I stumbled upon this site and I read the story about a wife who is having a similar experience in 26 my fiancee is 27 we met in college. Before meeting him I was a proud slut I’d say I’m perceived as hot and I hooked up with a lot of hot guys. My Fiancée is super loving and supportive he’s a great provider but I still fantasize about the type of men who once made me scream and I lost interest in sex with my fiancée occasionally he’s gotten very frustrated and sometimes mean he also had less partners then I. I do believe different people have different strengths and no one person can do everything in my experience the guys who made me scream also were terrible long term partners. I’m thinking about bringing up chastity and if that goes well maybe cuckolding bc I need to improve my bedroom experience and when he brought up the idea of him hooking up on the side it really unnerved me bc for men sex is way different and instead of taking through things he immediately went to his need and id much rather he focus on my needs. I’d prefer to hear from other women in this space on how they think about this?
As a submissive husband I can truly say that your story and wish is so nice!
My wife has not yet cuckolded me. But if she wanted to, the door would be open. I am intermittently in a chastity cage and now always wear more feminine panties than my wife.
This makes me feel both more submissive and she can easily correct me and I focus on her pleasure 24/7.
Maybe get him to use pink female panties also. That helped me to be a mutch more submissive and greatful husband. Spansk him hard when he dissobey and true to get him to only give you oral sex! Sitting on his face makes him submisdive over time!
Just play your cards right and you will quickly get a man who is attentive to your needs, obedient and then you will easily be able to cuckold him.
You will probably find that he brings up cuckolding as a possibility without you having to say anything about it first.
If I were completely confident that my wife would not look down on me and that she would not leave me if she got much better sex with another man, I would actually beg her to take a lover she wants.
I would have loved to be locked in a chastity cage and lick her clean if that was our only sex together. But I love that she still often lets me lick her even though we no longer have regular intercourse.
How to turn hubby into a sub sissy-fem cd bimale cuckold in six weeks - 2025.
Ladies - you should have lots of lovers. You should be able to fuck any cock you want at any time you want then ride hubby face while you share the details. You want a better husband then turn your hubby into a submissive sissy-fem crossdresser bimale cuckold that craves pleasing you. Here is a plan to make this happen:
(1) When you ride his cock - put your finger in his mouth and tell him to suck - soon you will be telling him to suck your finger like a cock. You need to plan to suck his cock 4 to 7 times a week for 6 weeks. Suck his cock and finger his ass (have lube ready) - tell him if he want his cock to be sucked then expect to be fingered. After you suck him off be sure to give him a snowball kiss each time.
Every night - tell him to go get ready cause you want to suck his cock. He will have his cock and balls and ass nice and clean and his ass lubed. Then suck his cock while you finger his ass - talk smut to him - on your ass opens like a pussy - from now-on your ass will be a sissy-pussy. Then always talk about his sissy-pussy.
Make him admit that he likes you sucking his cock while you finger his sissy-pussy. Second week you can reach up and play with his tits while you suck his cock and tell him you are going to suck his tits like you suck a cock. Bounce your head on his tit when you suck his tit. Soon you will be telling him to suck your tit like a cock - make him fantasize about sucking your tit like a cock - then sucking a cock cause you told him to suck a cock.
Every night you suck his cock and finger his sissy-pussy - very soon you can tell his body will submit to you and his sissy-pussy will open for you - craving you to finger him like a pussy.
(2) snowball kisses: when you suck off his cock and you have cum in your mouth then kiss him and share some cum with him. Tell him if he likes his cock sucked then he better get used to tasting cum. Good training for him to get where he will take cum from you. Someday you may be sucking a cock in front of him and then share a snowball kiss. Good fantasy to make him think about you sucking a cock in front of him - soon he will be sucking a cock with you.
(3) After a week of you sucking his cock while you finger his sissy-pussy - his body will be craving you. Craving you to suck his cock and finger his sissy-pussy. His sissy-pussy will be responding like a pussy. Open for you - pushing himself to your finger - second week add more lube and add more fingers. Talk smut to him always. Oh you like a second finger in your sissy-pussy. Then add a third finger. Do you want me to use a dildo on your sissy-pussy - make him ask for it. Someday I am going to invite a man here with a big cock and have him fuck your sissy-pussy while I watch. He will agree to anything while you are sucking his cock with three fingers in his sissy-pussy. Yes you can use a toy on him on the third week but make him ask for it.
(4) While you suck his tits - make him talk to you - make him ask you to keep sucking his tits - males will do anything while you are stroking his cock and sucking his cock. I am going to suck your tits and make your tits larger - are you ok with this - just in three weeks your tits are alot larger now. Soon you will be wearing a bra to bed. Fourth week you know you control him - you can use breast pump or use a standard cock pump. Take the rubber off and put the hard plastic tub on his tits and pump up. You can do this on your tits also. You have to keep fingering his sissy-pussy everynight or if you want tease him that are not going to suck his cock tonight if he has not be a good gurl.
(5) By now you know you can control him and he will do most anything you say. Just tell him you laid out clothes on the bed for him to wear - panties bra sundress and 2in heels - need to be wide not to hurt his toes. That you expect him to wear a nitie to bed every night and panties. include bra if you wish. Time to do some make up also. You do like me sucking your cock every night - say it back to me - good gurl.
(6) you keep sucking his cock and fingering his sissy-pussy - soon you will be fucking him with a toy then a larger toy. Oh they have the very thin toys that pump up so it does not hurt at all - then go to be bigger toy. Tell him time to go shopping for a strapon cock cause you want to fuck him like a woman and you want him to feel like a woman being fucked.
(7) his sissy-pussy will respond like a pussy now - give him just a little more than he can handle then let him adjust to the size then push it in a little deeper - do that over and over to make him take more and more toy cock. Then go to a larger toy - make him ask for a larger toy - make him say yes he needs more cock. When you fuck him with a strapon - do you want him to enjoy it or do you want to make him hurt alittle?
(8) a pussy or a sissy-pussy can handle a bigger toy cock then a real cock or a strapon cock - when you are pushing against his body and pushing your strapon cock into his sissy-pussy --- it feels so real and so exciting and so wonderful.
Never just start with a strapon cock - like a woman - always work up to it. After you have fucked him about 30 times then you can tell him -- someday I am going to just bend you over - put some lube on your sissy-pussy and fuck you - make you take my strapon cock and more than you can handle without getting you loosen up -- you want that - make him say it back to you.
(9) it is exciting to think of hubby wearing a bra and panties and sundress and 2in heels to do the housework.
After six weeks of sucking his cock and fingering his sissy-pussy every night -- you will have him so hooked and willing to do anything you want. You can say - get naked and on your knees and lick my pussy till I cum and he will do it.
Let him know you want him to ask and beg to be fingered more and more and to be fucked more and more with a toy. That you want him to ask to be fucked by you with a strapon cock.
Remind him that he agreed to do anything you wanted to him and you promised him more and more sex and that his cock would be happier if he says yes to everything you want.
(10) Once you make him suck a cock and be fucked by a cock - he will want more and more cock but you need to push him to do it more and more --- he will not feel like he can ask for it like he can with you using a toy on him.
Make him feel safe and loved and make him ask for more cock - make him say that he likes sucking cocks and that he likes being fucked like a woman. That he likes cum in his mouth and in his sissy-pussy.
Do you want him to suck cocks for you and take cocks in his sissy-pussy??? Do you want to be able to fuck any cock you want 1on1 or 3way? Then have hubby lick your pussy clean while you share the details with him.
The key wording now is - hubby you understand you need to follow my orders to get your cock sucked.
I am Robbie in Norman, Oklahoma - I have photos on my profile page on fetlife - email me your past sex and kinky fantasies to robbiewillsucku at gm ail -- I also chat on google-chat.
2025, Hello I am Robbie in Norman, Oklahoma, a bimale with nice tits that need to be sucked - I like hot chat and chat on gogle-chat as robbiewillsucku at gm ail. I want to find a top-dom bimale or bifemale or bi-couple that can host in the mornings during the week. Males - If you can host in the mornings - I will suck your cock 1on1 or 3way and if you want to fuck my sissy-pussy you need to be have lube and condoms. Yes I will suck and play with other sub sissies. I love sucking female's tits and I like being pegged by a woman with a strapon cock. Tell me more, show me more, where are you located, what do you like or want to try, how will you play with me?