I have at many times in my life been a big part of the kink community and sometimes we all have little get togethers place where people meet and greet
Well around here there is a group of older ladies 50s 60s and up called the dragons ball .... Dom's swingers hotwifes you name it but in all cases they are strong independent woman who have seen it all ..... They are very exclusive.... You only get to sit with them by invitation.... And if they see me no matter what I'm doing they demand I sit with them for a round or two .... Hey free drinks 🍷🍻🍷 I'm not complaining
But the stories I have herd the information life experience that has been shared with me .... I could only scratch the surface...
The biggest things I have been told I'll show here
1 do nothing you can not ender yourself....
2 no one is a island if you need help ask someone
3 kinks are fun and all but if that's all you got one day you'll wake up to a cold bed ( that one hits hard coming from a older woman with a tear in her eye )
4 you can undo any thing if your willing two put in ten times the work to make it happen..... If your not well why did you do it ?
5 always even in a Dom Sub situation put in whatever work is needed to make sure everyone comes out with a smile on there face 😁
6 at the end of it all your still a person worthy of love and respect whether a Dom Sub switch swinger woman man or whatever it is you are
Just thought maybe that might help some people have a epic day 😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎
Oh I'd never call those ladies powerless 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
The first couple we met in swinging. He had a saying. ( Everyone is responsible for their own orgasm). We laughed at the time, but we came to find out it’s true.
Here is something I learned orgasms happen in the mind ..... Once you think 🤔 really hard on that one the more true it becomes
To say I needed this would be a monumental understatement. This fetish is so hot for me , and I’m many ways consumed me . I ruined my relationship with the love of my life over this . And I am incredibly alone . And don’t even think I have the will to try again. It was fun while it was happening, but the disrespect became full time , the pathetic attitude and the dismissive hateful attitude from us towards each other flat out built resentment and inevitability destroyed my marriage, and myself. And I know I’ll never find someone who would offer this type of thing and still love and respect me long term . It’s either the kink all alone now or it’s somehow try and break free from it and hope I can overcome the desire. Any advice?
To say I needed this would be a monumental understatement. This fetish is so hot for me , and I’m many ways consumed me . I ruined my relationship with the love of my life over this . And I am incredibly alone . And don’t even think I have the will to try again. It was fun while it was happening, but the disrespect became full time , the pathetic attitude and the dismissive hateful attitude from us towards each other flat out built resentment and inevitability destroyed my marriage, and myself. And I know I’ll never find someone who would offer this type of thing and still love and respect me long term . It’s either the kink all alone now or it’s somehow try and break free from it and hope I can overcome the desire. Any advice?
Ok first let's look at the 4 steps to edit a kink
..... My own rule book by and way ...
Step 1 cold turkey
Step 2 seperate into smaller kinks
Step 3 use a payment system
Step 4 build up self control
1 ok find a quiet spot to stop 🛑 think about what it is about the kink that is overwhelming your life if need be get someone who has more experience to be your support and sounding board
2 once you got your brain 🧠 into the right gear separate each aspect into smaller kinks like mental boxes in your mind makes it easier to manage sounds stupid but God dam it works
3 use a reverse payment system rather then I have been a good boy I definitely deserve this .... If I get this this is what I'm willing to do to pay it forward to make it work for whoever I'm with ... This helps people be more comfortable with it and well helps you feel better about doing sead kink
4 this is pretty self explanatory remember your a human being you control you your not just a kink lifestyle or anything reward your self with a job well done when you control your self and it will get easier in time
Hopefully this helps feel free to modify or change to support yourself ☺️