A lot of men start where you are, but later learn that it's not anywhere near as attractive to women as the men think it is. In a way, it's like ski...

The first thing to ponder is this: He is desperate. That is clear. I'd suggest that the worst thing that you can do is to do nothing. He has quite l...

@subhubphx Our relationship has never been better, and we both know it. If we were free of other concerns, things would be really good. Unfortunately,...

On that scale, we are at kink level zero ? I'm kinky. She's vanilla. So we compromise and do everything her way. I wear a cage if / when / as lon...

I think, in a good relationship, that "manipulation" can be fun. But I think a good relationship first, with lots of trust, that evolves toward kink, ...

@allabouther Consistency. Reinforcement over time. What you wrote reminds me a little bit of my marriage. I was thinking about this recently as ...

I remember being frustrated ... I am hoping to never go back to that point. Nowadays, any time I sense that frustration starting to show up, I have ...

Is it sustainable? Well, only you can answer that for your relationship. It has certainly helped to sustain (and improve) my relationship with my wife...

Daedra, you think you're not compatible, but you are! Here's how I know this to be true: Because you are willing to communicate with your husband, and...

There will always be scolds, but you and your opinions are most welcome here. Please don't bite your tongue just because someone does not like your op...

Assuming you're a man, the problem you'll run into quickly is that "chastity and some form of FLR" is not what women are looking for. They're looking ...

First, and most importantly, don't feel guilty about not being an exact libido match for him. Right now, it sucks for him, but you can fix that in his...

@evolvingyourman_ivcr4j Yup, and to be clear, it doesn't even always need to be sexual in nature to work. Men (see some of the other threads here)...

You're in a tough spot. I don't have any answers for you. I just want you to know that you're heard, and there are others who feel your pain and w...

I totally get it. I had one of those last night ?