Life has been busy, what can I say. I've been away for a few weeks but I figured that I would start back with a quick blog about some do's and don'ts for a successful relationship that employs male chastity. I owe you all some updates and I promise I'll get to them very soon. In the meantime, here are some do's and don'ts to help you allow yourself to accept extra attention, affection and communication that goes hand and hand with male chastity. Most relationships are starved for intimacy. Make changes and start today. Lock him up, buttercup!
Communication is essential in any relationship but especially so when you are locking up an essential part of your partner's anatomy. The lockup isn't meant as a means of punishment, it is meant as a way of working together to direct his sexual energy toward you. Without proper communication this approach is bound to backfire. When you cage your guy, he will almost immediately become more communicative. Much of this communication will be about his cage but redirect that conversation to real and meaningful topics. A couple that communicates regularly is unstoppable and will overcome nearly any obstacle. Using something as simple as a lock and key as a metaphor for your love will give you a tool to keep him talking and encourage him to express his feelings.
The intention isn't to cause soreness or injury due to improper cage fitment. A properly fitting cage is essential for success. Whether you are using the cage for a weekend or a month, the intention is for him to eventually forget that the cage is there. The cage eventually will give him a sense of security, comfort and reassurance of your love for him. An improperly fitting cage will become a challenge to your success. A properly fitting cage can be worn while doing most daily activities but it may take some trial and error to find a cage that fits him perfectly. Every anatomy is different so finding the right cage might take some trial and error.
Teasing him daily or several times a day keep things exciting for him and help him remember that you are in charge of his orgasms and keep his sexual energy focused on you. Teasing can be as simple as a reminder that he is locked. Waving your car keys with a knowing smile. Giving his cage a firm tug through his pants. Key necklaces are wonderful as you can see his eyes dart down while you are talking to him. You can see his attention on your necklace as a gentle reminder of your love for him. Arousal can take many forms; from a soft caress of his arm to other non-orgasmic activities like pegging or requesting a massage from him. This is a chance to be overly and overtly sexual without feeling the pressure for more. I like to bend over, spread my legs, flash my tits, lick my lips in extremely obvious attempts to get his sexual juices flowing.
When you implement male chastity, it doesn't need to immediately be a full time lockup. Try for an hour or two at a time. After a few brief lockup periods, try sending him to work locked. If that works, let him sleep in his cage. Involuntary overnight erections will be a challenge the first few nights but they can be easily releived by getting up to urinate. When a man has an erection, it is impossible for him to urinate and his body does it to prevent urination during sleep.
Acknowledging and embracing his frustration is a wonderful way to make him feel loved. Use his frustration as a motivational tool. Do you need yardwork done? Use his newly found energy as a way to motivate him to do yard work. Could he stand to lose a few pounds? Using weight loss as a goal for unlocking is a great way to have a goal that results in a slimmer trimmer boyfriend/husband. Do you need a massage or perhaps oral love? His sexual energy is wonderfully suited for physical touch. He will want to touch you and please you. Don't miss out!…
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