Today, being International Male Chastity Day, feels like the perfect opportunity to delve deeper into the subject. As many of you know, I am the author of the current erotic story, My Journey Into a Female-Led Relationship. This story, though fictional, is grounded in the real-life experiences of a couple who entrusted me with the husband’s journal. They asked me to transform it into a story, and I did just that. For this website, I further adapted the journal’s foundation to create an erotic narrative that captures both the intimacy and complexity of their lifestyle.
When I began this project, I was unfamiliar with the dynamics of Female-Led Relationships (FLR). While I had some awareness of chastity and chastity cages, the deeper nuances were new to me. As I delved into the journal, one concept stood out: the intriguing interplay of sexual denial, particularly the practice of tease and denial, with an emphasis on denial. That’s the focus of today’s post, and I’d like to open up a discussion with those who have come to accept, and even embrace, sexual denial in their relationships.
The gentleman featured in the journal was deeply drawn to the idea of tease and denial. Remarkably, he had gone years without a full sexual release, experiencing only the occasional ruined orgasm, or prostate massage through pegging or other means. What astonished me was his assertion that this state of arousal was not just tolerable but superior to traditional climaxes. To someone new to the concept, it’s natural to wonder: how could that be possible?
In my story, I explored the positive aspects of this lifestyle, as described in the journal. Simply put, he found that living in a heightened state of arousal without relief was not frustrating but surprisingly liberating. One pivotal moment in the journal (that chapter has not been posted yet) involved his wife giving him a blowjob for the first time in many months.
While the climax itself was intense, he confessed that it left him feeling oddly deflated. He described it as a letdown: the euphoria lasted only 20 or 30 seconds, and then it was over. What he truly missed afterward was the constant, electric buzz of arousal that had become a cherished companion. Over time, he realized that he didn’t want to lose that feeling, not even for a moment.
This revelation made me reflect on male arousal more broadly. Think back to the excitement of pursuing a new romantic interest. That thrill, that heightened sense of anticipation, is exhilarating and fun. Yet, as young men, that arousal typically, and maybe unfortunately, demands release, whether with a partner or, more often, on our own. Let’s be honest: for most young men, self-pleasure is far more common than partnered intimacy.…
Good post you have. Not much to take issue with here, with the possible exception being:
“For the women reading this who have struggled to get their partner to embrace this dynamic”
I would suggest it’s normally men who are struggling to get their partner embrace this dynamic. Nevertheless, the popularity of enforced male chastity will continue to grow as will female led relationships. Personally, I consider both to be healthy alternatives to slothful males sitting in front of their computers, wasting their energy and libido’s masturbating to internet porn. It’s better to direct these energies to serving women, as well as useful activities, such as work or exercise.
That’s a good point. I agree that enforced chastity and FLR are far superior to what we have now, considering that most marriages end in divorce, with 80% of the divorces initiated by the woman. This is primarily caused by a males uncontrolled basic instincts. On the other side, if a woman has a man that wants to have his basic crude instincts controlled, she should jump on it (I wonder how we reach out to women on this issue). My belief is based on the idea that it is both men and women who have their challenges to establish this dynamic. What we know is that men typically are the ones that initiate the process, and yes, they struggle to get the wife on board. But on the other side, if the woman embraces it, she also has to take on the role of nurturing the process… meaning that she should take the ball (maybe better said, “his balls”) and run with it. Bottom line is that if the woman does decide to embrace it, she needs to make sure he is not ignored. The man wants attention as much as the woman, but from a different perspective. It seems the basis of a FLR is that the man treats his woman like a queen and she in turn makes sure his libido is always at a high level by encouraging the man, accepting his desire for chastity, tease and denying him, dressing sexy, and generally encouraging him. I would suggest that any level (1-4) of FLR is superior to what we have today, and would be good for society in general.
This is a great post. I am in a loving FLR with my wife, married 10 years together 13. She was naturally dominant when i met her, and we now realise that she was training me from the beginning without me or her actually realising it. We use the Honour system regarding sexual release for me, and it works very well for us. She teases me almost daily sometimes a playful kiss and touch, other days something more.. when she wants sex she uses me then denies my release, but i never know when the release may come as she can be unpredictable, it can be anywhere from 3 days to two weeks. I do enjoy it immensely when i am finally allowed to have an orgasm, though for a day or two afterwards i do lack the same focus and energy, but i do need that release all the same as after around 10 days i start to have constant pain, what some call blue ball syndrome, which always goes away after i am allowed an orgasm. Our dynamic suits us both perfectly though, she gets a loving attentive husband who is constantly trying to improve himself and make himself a better husband, and i get a strong, confident, sexy, dominant wife who knows exactly what she wants in life and how to get it.. she always communicates clearly with me though which i think is a must in this type of relationship, especially a cuckold relationship like we have. I always try to be direct with her as well about me feelings, and i like how she checks in with me to make sure i am still okay with her playing away from our marriage with other men, she constantly makes me feel valued and loved while maintaining a firm control over me and our dynamic, and of course i am eager to please her in any way she deems fit, but without the orgasm control and tease and denial aspect of our marriage I don’t think i would be as good of a husband as she says i am.
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